Psychological problems of middle-aged men

In modern life, it is an indisputable fact that "men live too hard", especially middle-aged men, who have to shoulder the heavy responsibility of work, support the elderly and raise and educate their children, thus becoming the group with the heaviest psychological burden. Psychological research shows that due to the difference in social roles, when men face job insecurity, especially the crisis of unemployment, the excessive pressure accumulated in their bodies is often unable to be vented, which can easily lead to loneliness, suspicion, fatigue, insomnia and lack of concentration. In severe cases, it can also cause neurotic paranoia and mania.

1. Large shopping mall managers lack friendship

Mr. Liu, 44, is a manager of a large shopping mall. However, he often calls himself "a person without any close friends" even though he drinks and socializes with people every day. He said that his interactions with "friends" in the business world are just formalities for the sake of profit, and it is even more impossible for subordinates to become close friends. He usually does not want to talk to others for more than a few words. "I think that in order to complete my work well, I have to maintain a relationship with others without any emotional color." In Mr. Liu's view, in the fiercely competitive environment, there is no room for human feelings, and people will inevitably be wary of each other.

"His heart is always closed." This is how everyone around him, including his wife, commented on him. Due to years of accumulation, Mr. Liu, who lacked the support of friendship, became irritable, withdrawn, and suspicious. As a result, a small business setback completely broke Mr. Liu's spirit. Later, he locked himself in the house all day, not seeing anyone and not doing anything. Finally, he was sent to a mental health center for treatment.

2. Men are the “weaker sex” in many ways

In fact, men are not as strong as we think. Compared with women, men have lower immunity, poorer endurance and weaker vitality. A survey data from the World Health Organization shows that men's life expectancy is 6 years shorter than that of women, and even if the issue of life expectancy is not taken into account, men's quality of life is generally lower than that of women.

Men have a higher incidence of certain genetic diseases, respiratory diseases, digestive system diseases, diabetes, liver diseases, etc. The incidence of heart disease in men is twice that of women. At the same time, the number of deaths from prostate disease has increased by 17% since the 1960s. In sharp contrast, the health awareness of men in society is weak.

It is generally known that the growth and development of the body requires adequate nutrition, such as protein, fat, sugar, inorganic salts, vitamins and water. In fact, psychological "nutrition" is also very important. If it is seriously lacking, it will affect mental health.

3. Add "nutrition" to psychology

1. The most important spiritual "nutrition" is love. Childhood is mainly about the love of parents. Childhood is a critical period for cultivating people's mental health. If children do not get enough and correct parental love at this stage, it will affect their mental health development throughout their lives. Many adult mental disorders are related to the lack of parental love in childhood.

In adolescence, the love of friends and teachers is added, and in youth, the love of couples and husband and wife is particularly important. Middle-aged people have great social responsibilities, and the love of colleagues, relatives, friends and children is very important. They will give people more confidence and motivation in their careers and make their lives full of joy and warmth.

2. Venting and guiding are important spiritual "nutrition". Whether it is diverting, avoiding or trying to masturbate, it can only temporarily alleviate psychological contradictions and seek superficial psychological balance. It only treats the surface, while moderate venting has a fundamental effect. For example, when you are depressed, you can go play football and vent your mood on the field; when you encounter something unpleasant, tell your relatives and friends and express your unhappiness.

3. Well-intentioned criticism is an important spiritual "nutrient". If a person does not receive correct criticism for a long time, he will inevitably develop arrogance and complacency, which is also a manifestation of unhealthy psychological development. Usually, you should get close to knowledgeable, virtuous and trustworthy people, so that it is easier to obtain this healthy "nutrient".

4. Strengthening beliefs is a spiritual "nutrient". Strong beliefs and ideals, a broad mind, etc. are also important spiritual "nutrients". The key to maintaining mental health is to learn to adjust yourself, be good at controlling your personal emotions, and take the initiative to replenish yourself with healthy mental nutrients.