What to do if a man becomes feminine? Two aspects to help you solve your confusion

Feminine men are fashionable and like to dress up, with powdered hair, earrings and diamonds. They wear everything that women like. This is a problem in society. What should we do?

1. Excessive “feminization” of school education

Currently, more than 90% of primary school teachers are female, which makes the school's orientation towards students' personalities also feminine. Whether it is evaluating three good students or selecting class leaders, the girls' personalities are used as the standard, such as: obedient, submissive, serious, careful, and well-behaved. These characteristics are obviously feminine and far from the masculine image of men. It is well known that the basic characteristics of boys are vigorous energy, lively and active, rough behavior, carelessness, and aggressiveness. However, in the vast majority of schools, the above-mentioned behaviors and personalities of boys are strictly prohibited. For example, during breaks, boys like to chase and fight; in class, boys tend to be hyperactive; etc., all of which will be severely criticized and stopped by teachers. Over time, the originally energetic boys were gradually incorporated into the feminine personality pattern under the restrictions of various norms, and the boys' inherent free nature was "suppressed".

2. Father education is generally lacking in the family of "strict mother and loving father"

Yu Changjiang, a sociology professor at Peking University, once analyzed the changes in the concept of paternity from a sociological perspective. The key word he used was "weakening."

Yu Changjiang believes that in traditional society, due to the existence of a family system centered on patriarchy, fathers play a role of exemplary authority in the growth of children. The concept of "fathers are to blame for not educating their children" also makes fathers bear more responsibility for educating their children. In modern society, children may be better able to adapt to the changes of the times than their fathers, and the socialized authority of fathers has gradually weakened, which has also led to the weakening of the relationship between fathers and sons (daughters).