Please do not suppress your children's crushes during puberty

Adolescence is a period when teenagers turn into young adults, which usually occurs in junior high school. During this period, people begin to develop an interest in and affection for the opposite sex, and consciously begin to pay attention to the opposite sex, such as having a crush on a classmate of the opposite sex. Parents may adopt a forced suppression approach to make their children concentrate on their studies, fearing that their children may fall in love too early. But is this really right?

Reasons for adolescence crush

From a psychological perspective, adolescents are in the period of first love, and they will have a vague affection for the opposite sex. In fact, this is a change in the child's cognition of the opposite sex and a process of the child's psychological maturity. The budding of children's emotions and the occurrence of "premature love" are the best evidence of the child's physical and psychological maturity, and are also a manifestation of the gradual strengthening of sexual awareness.

During this period, children are very rebellious. If parents forcefully suppress their children's affection for the opposite sex, they are likely to become antagonistic to their parents. Coupled with the psychological influence of their desire to interact with the opposite sex, children may really fall in love prematurely. Therefore, adolescent romance has its inevitability and psychological basis. Parents should understand their children's psychology and give up the practice of forcefully blocking them, so that they can do a good job of guiding them.

What should parents do?

(1) It is not entirely a bad thing for a child to interact with the opposite sex. He or she may become good friends with his or her classmates.

(2) Learning to get along with the opposite sex can cultivate children's ability to interact with others and is also a necessary preparation for future career development and adapting to social relationships;

(3) Do not force your child to interact with the opposite sex. Instead, guide your child to get along with the opposite sex correctly and improve his or her personal communication skills.

Parents are also experienced people. When they find that their children have these situations during adolescence, they should handle them properly and not force them to suppress them.