Sexual upgrade plan for middle-aged "tired" men

After the age of 35, male sexual maturity and sexual experience reach their peak, and then gradually decline. So, how can we adjust to have a long-term harmonious sex life? Experts provide the following sex upgrade plan for middle-aged "tired" men.

1. Adjust the speed

Young people's sexual behavior is fast and intense. They are easily excited and explode like gunpowder. Men in their 20s can reach orgasm 2-3 minutes after the start of sexual intercourse, but wives may need more than 20 minutes to reach a high level of excitement. Therefore, it often happens that when the wife is getting into the mood, the husband has already died down. Surveys show that newlywed women in their twenties have the most difficulty reaching orgasm among all age groups.

As men age, their arousal rhythm slows down, and their blood flow and muscle contraction speed naturally slow down, so it takes longer for men in their 40s and 50s to reach orgasm. This slow and emotional sex is more attractive to wives. With the synchronization of "sexual arousal", wives will naturally be satisfied.

2. Do instead of watching

Young men may get an erection even if they only see a bra drying, but after the age of 35, they may not care about their wife's body and will pay more attention to her kisses and caresses. 51% of young husbands will be excited when they see their wives taking off their clothes, but this ratio will drop to 40% when they are in their forties. If couples can use their actions instead of their eyes and actively express instead of passive acceptance, they will get unexpected results.

3. Change roles

In young couples, it is always the husband who takes the initiative to pull his wife closer and whisper in her ear that he wants to have sex. After many years, the wife may become more proactive due to changes in hormone secretion.

Both men and women secrete testosterone and estrogen, but at different ages, their secretion ratios are different. When the secretion ratio of these two hormones in men changes, he may be more willing to be in a passive position. When the estrogen in women's bodies decreases, the secretion of testosterone increases accordingly, and they may become more active.

4. Try to innovate

As couples grow older, they get to know each other better. Because of their mutual familiarity and trust, they are no longer shy about discussing how to have a more satisfying sex life. You might as well learn to use new methods and new perspectives to solve old problems, such as couples bathing together, etc.

5. Win with less

50% of young couples have sex two to three times a week, and 11% of them have sex more than four times a week. After the age of 35, this proportion drops to 39%. And 45% of couples may have sex "few times a month", but they still feel emotionally and physically satisfied.

As the frequency of sex decreases, couples should be more aware of the importance of the quality of each sex life. If both parties can obtain physical and mental satisfaction at the same time, even if they only have sex once, it is much better than dozens of times as usual. "A short separation is better than a new marriage", which also shows how important a high-quality sex life is to the relationship between couples.

Having a harmonious sex life after the age of 35 requires adjustment and adaptation from both spouses. As long as both spouses truly understand these normal and inevitable changes, they can face them correctly and gain lasting happiness, even in old age.