Why can't I get an erection when I'm with my girlfriend?

When adults reach a certain age, they will fall in love and get married. Many young people even try marriage. Although premarital sex is not recommended, they may not care much about it when they reach a certain age. But some men ask why they can't get hard when they are with their girlfriends? That is, they can't have a normal sex life. This problem should be considered from the psychological and physical aspects.

1. Physiological factors cause men's penis to be soft

Systemic diseases such as cardiovascular disease, respiratory disease, endocrine system disease, neuropsychiatric disease, blood and liver and kidney disease are risk factors for erectile dysfunction. These will lead to the inability of the penis to get hard.

Urogenital organ diseases: such as prostatitis, prostatic hyperplasia, epididymitis, varicocele, etc. can often lead to impotence. Some middle-aged and elderly patients suffer from impotence due to prostatitis and prostatic hyperplasia.

2. Psychological factors cause men's penis to be soft

Due to the difference in psychological quality of each person, even if they encounter similar mental and psychological stimulation, they may have different reactions. Psychological trauma will not cause the penis to become erectile in most people. However, some men with poor psychological tolerance or some shadows will be affected and suffer from premature ejaculation. If the psychological factors that cause men to become erectile are not treated for a long time, it will lead to functional erectile dysfunction, and the more they cannot get an erection, the heavier the psychological burden.

Sexual psychological trauma in childhood, or lack of sexual knowledge in newlyweds, tension and anxiety, or emotional discord between husband and wife, disharmonious family relationships; or bad habits, such as excessive masturbation, which leads to reduced sensitivity of the penis, mental tension, and excessive mental burden, can lead to impotence.

3. Other factors cause men's penis to be soft

3.1. Unhealthy lifestyle: Smoking, alcoholism, and drug abuse, these three unhealthy lifestyles seriously affect male sexual function.

3.2. Surgical trauma: Trauma, pelvic fracture combined with urethral trauma, pelvic radiotherapy for prostate cancer, and any other trauma or surgery that damages the penile nerve supply and vascular supply can easily cause erectile dysfunction.

What to do if a man's penis is not hard

1. Enhance penile response

Practice to make the penis move up and down freely. When you have an erection in the morning, before going to the toilet to urinate, use your fingers to gently press the penis one-third of the way from the front end, and push the penis down. This will make the penis close to an erect state. Then put your fingertips on the penis and feel its reaction. While closing the anus, push the penis up. Repeat this action for about a minute.

2. Strengthen erectile nerves

After defecation, close your eyes first, release the strength of your shoulders, then release the strength from head to toe, half close your mouth, relax your facial muscles, and then repeat short and slow abdominal breathing for 30 seconds.

3. Cold Brew

First, warm the scrotum in the bathtub, then stand up and pour cold water on it. When the scrotum shrinks, put it back into the hot water, stretch it, and then pour cold water on it. Repeat this five times.

4. Masturbation exercise

Strong stimulation and smooth ejaculation cannot achieve the purpose of exercise. You should use your hands to squeeze, relax, and squeeze repeatedly to compress the penis. This action can activate the nerves and blood vessels. In addition, when masturbating up and down, if you feel that you are about to ejaculate, you should stop immediately, squeeze the base of the penis with your hands, then stop, continue, and stop again, and repeat several times.