How a man shows his love for his wife in bed

Whether in a relationship or a marriage, women lack a sense of security, so they all hope that their boyfriends or husbands love them very much. However, some men love their wives but do not show it directly in their lives, so most women do not know whether their husbands love them, and even suspect that their husbands do not love them. So how does a man show his love for his wife in bed?

1. Distance creates beauty

After getting married, a man lives with his wife day and night, in the same circle, and after a while, the novelty of being with her gradually disappears. He can see everything his wife says and does, so he becomes a little indifferent. When he looks at other women, he is just like when he first looked at his wife, full of curiosity and novelty. The reason why it is novel is because there is a certain distance, like looking at flowers in the fog, hazy, not clear, and the man can only catch a glimpse of the surface phenomenon, but cannot see the essence of it. This haziness can produce a kind of beauty.

As the saying goes: A short absence is better than a new marriage. It also means that distance creates beauty, and I believe many friends who have experienced this have experienced it deeply.

For example: A wife is like a book. When you first get it, you are very interested in it, and you will read it tirelessly without sleeping or eating. When you finish reading it, you know the plot and are too familiar with it, so you will throw it aside. In contrast, a newly published book will definitely arouse your strong interest. This is the most popular metaphor for the fact that other people's wives always look better than your own.

2. Different perspectives of appreciation

The angles from which a husband appreciates his wife and other women are completely different. A man looks at his wife from his perspective. He always hopes that his wife is perfect, better than others, and can "be good in the living room and in the kitchen". Some men also hope that their wives are ladies in the living room, sluts in bed, and nannies in the kitchen. When men look at other women, they mostly observe them from the perspective of friends, colleagues, and classmates. They must be polite, friendly, and gentlemanly in their interactions. Even when they are looking at the beauty of women on the street, they think that every woman passing by on the street is beautiful.

Based on this kind of thinking, when they see other women being extremely lovely, gentle, considerate, and beautiful, they feel that their wives lack grace. In short, this kind of "perfection-seeking mentality" often compares other people's strengths with their wives' weaknesses, so they feel that their wives are not satisfactory.

3. Different Mentality

When dealing with a woman outside of marriage, one often desires the other's trust, goodwill and even admiration. So they flatter each other, and deliberately cover up their shortcomings and try to show their superiority. Originally this woman was a "lion roaring in the east of the river", but now she will speak softly and tenderly; originally she was a "mother-yaksha in the east of the sea", but now she will be charming and graceful. It's different for a wife. She has to live with you at home every day. She won't be artificial, and she won't be artificial. There's no need to cover up. Add to that the burden of life, household chores, and quarrels. Once a person's mood is affected, he will become more and more disgusted with his wife's shortcomings, and he will find everything unpleasant. When he thinks of other people's advantages, of course he will say that other people's wives are good.

4. Different psychological feelings

After a couple has been together for a long time, they will develop a mentality of "living in an orchid room for a long time without being able to smell its fragrance". This is a factor of psychological saturation. They become accustomed to their wife's advantages. For example, braised pork tastes delicious, but if you eat it every day, I believe you will get tired of it and even lose your appetite. This psychological feeling makes it difficult for you to appreciate the beauty of your wife even if you are with her every day.

Every couple is united by love. Before marriage, you must think that your wife is the most lovely person in the world, better than anyone else, so you mobilize all your wisdom to pursue her. After marriage, you feel that your wife is inferior to others, which is just a psychological illusion. To be fair, it is your wife who shares the joys and sorrows with you, the wife who shares weal and woe with you, the wife who accompanies you through life and death, and the wife who is still your wife when you are in the most difficult time and need help the most.