Do you still remember the taste of a kiss? Several rules for keeping a happy marriage fresh

Do you still remember the story about kissing with lychee candy in your mouth? Yes, when thinking of that story, many people may recall the taste of their first kiss. Those are all the romantic and beautiful moments before marriage. So how do you manage your relationship after marriage?

Say "thank you" every day

The harmony of marriage lies in daily smoothness. Don't ignore seemingly trivial things, and don't take everything your lover does for granted. Try to express gratitude generously at least once a day. Even if the other person just washes the dishes or cleans the bathroom, you should say "thank you" or "thank you for your hard work." Although this kind of gratitude may seem strange and unfamiliar, it is an important way to express support and affirmation, and it can also make you and your partner feel loved.

Re-do the romance of the honeymoon period

Make a snack for him; give her a bouquet of roses; put a love note in his briefcase; write her a sweet love letter... these things that are often done during the period of love are particularly precious in marriage. Not only can they remind people of the warmth and sweetness of the past and evoke happy emotions, this unexpected surprise can also make the other party experience new feelings and warm up the relationship.

Be each other's "chat partner"

"When we were in love, we always had endless things to say, why is there only silence now?" Many couples will have this feeling. After being together for a long time, they think they know each other very well and gradually ignore communication. The sense of happiness will disappear with this silence. The two need to find opportunities to chat every day and set aside family time to talk about work and family matters. Men focus on achievement and dignity, while women focus on emotions and relationships. Couples should consider each other's perspectives and use the most appropriate communication methods. Less complaints and worries, more encouragement and jokes, and a positive attitude will better relieve each other's pressure. In addition, verbal communication can also create a sense of psychological satisfaction, which is especially beneficial for wives who are more eager to confide.

Creating opportunities for both parties to coexist

Many married people complain that "after marriage, there is no freedom". It is said that distance creates beauty, and "being alone" can indeed satisfy the need for freedom to a certain extent. But don't forget the importance of coexistence, and there should be a balance between the two. Couples can intentionally create some common actions, such as asking each other to help with housework, buying tickets to watch a movie together, etc. This can not only cultivate intimacy between the two parties and strengthen the marriage relationship, but also create more beautiful memories.

Every couple hopes to be together forever when they get married, but many still go their separate ways for various reasons.

Make the other person feel cared for

Before leaving the house every morning, ask your partner about his or her plans for the day. Maybe he or she is preparing to meet an important client or has a tense interview. A greeting can make your partner feel your care and concern. In addition to words of comfort, sharing the big and small things in life with your partner, including housework, finances, and childcare, can also make him or her feel your love and support, and increase his or her value in the marriage.

Respect each other in front of outsiders

Whether you are attending a social gathering or going out shopping, don't give your partner a cold shoulder, let alone embarrass him in public. For the reserved Chinese, face is very important, especially in public. On the contrary, you should give your partner a subtle signal of love. For example, holding his hand or holding his shoulder when walking, these "small actions" can convey the love and intimacy between husband and wife. In this regard, Chinese couples who are shy about expressing their feelings should learn more from Westerners.

Don't rush to judge the other party

If you say too many summary statements like "You are a hands-off boss who doesn't care about anything" or "You can't even mop the floor properly, what else can you do?", you will believe that the other person does have a problem. Moreover, the person being accused will become depressed and gradually accept this conclusion, and will develop in the direction of labeling, which will eventually lead to a tense family atmosphere.

Love the whole house and its dog

A Chinese marriage is more about two families than a union of two people. Being able to accept and respect each other's relatives and friends is a principle of a happy marriage. Inviting your partner's relatives and friends to attend important days and lending a hand when they need it are all sincere expressions of loving your partner, which will undoubtedly make your partner love you more. When a couple has problems, they can also ask these relatives and friends for help, and they may be able to help untie the "deadlock".

Deal with disagreements calmly

When couples have disagreements and conflicts, they should not be unreasonable and argue until their faces turn red. They should also avoid rushing to tell each other "I want to talk to you" after the argument. This kind of communication will be declared ineffective because both parties are angry. The best way is to calm down and invite the other party to go out for a walk. On the one hand, it will stay away from the quarrel, and on the other hand, it will gradually ease the excited emotions, making it easier to speak your true thoughts, and encourage the other party to speak the truth, which will help resolve misunderstandings.

Appreciate your lover

When you are in love, you will think that the other person is the best person in the world. This appreciation is the basis for your love and marriage. But in the daily trivialities, those things that you once appreciated may become the fuse that triggers conflicts. You can't just see the thorns of roses, but you should see the roses in the thorns. You might as well use a positive attitude to focus on the advantages of the other person. You can write a gratitude diary and write down what the other person does for you every day, which can make the relationship more harmonious.

Do not constrain or control the other party

"Who has the final say in this family, you or me?" Fighting for "leadership" in the family has become a flashpoint in many marriages. Being competitive and unwilling to yield are indeed more serious problems among only children. When two people form a family, they should respect each other and reduce each other's sense of grievance and oppression. They should understand that the other person is an independent and free person, and should not impose too many restrictions or force the other person to change according to their own preferences.

Regularly review your marriage experience

At work, people often write a year-end summary to review what they have gained and lost in the past year and seek improvement. The same is true for marriage. Every few months, the couple can each write a summary of their family life. Discuss the problems in the marriage with each other and actively discuss solutions. It is also an opportunity to have a heart-to-heart talk. You can also compare the summaries of previous years so that both parties can realize the efforts made by each other for the family.