What to do if you can't get over the pain of a broken heart?

Most boys have experienced a broken heart, or many are experiencing it. We know that many things don't happen overnight, so a broken heart is not something that is very rare. So what should friends who can't get out of the pain of a broken heart do? Maybe after reading the following case, you may have some direction.

Q: I'm heartbroken. She was my first love, I loved her very much, and we had a very good relationship. I always thought we would get married and grow old together. But she suddenly told me that she was going abroad, and that she had a future there, and she didn't want to live a monotonous life with me. I couldn't bear to see her leave, but I didn't want to leave home either. She was a girl who was better than me in every way, and I shouldn't have tied her down.

But after she left, I felt so hurt! I wanted to just find someone to marry, or maybe I was really a failure and had no ability to give a good girl a future.

A: "How many people in the world have never been heartbroken? The pain will go away in a few days." This kind of nonsense is probably said by people who are not afraid of the pain. It hurts. If you have given your heart to love someone, everyone will feel pain when you lose it, let alone your first love. When you feel pain, be with yourself, accept the pain, allow yourself to have an emotional low period, and allow yourself to rest physically and mentally. Then, think about how you can be different next time.

If you want to find someone to marry right away as a "band-aid" because you're in pain, then let me tell you, you probably really are "incapable of giving a good girl a future."

Life is a train, and everyone may arrive at a different station. She wants to go abroad, and you don't want to leave home. These are your different choices. Since you both clearly understand your choices and directions, the results are also expected. If you give up either of them, it will be painful, so just accept it.

If this is not the ending you want, and it is just that you are not capable of giving a good girl the life she wants, then instead of focusing your energy on the pain of life and death, think about how things can be different next time. Maybe if you change, things will change.

How can I make myself better? How can I have the conditions to give a good girl a future? Even if I think more realistically, thinking about how to make more money is also a practical change. At least, when you meet the next one, the same story will not repeat itself. However, if you have not thought about changing yet, but just fall into the trap of emotions, then congratulations, "failure" is really not far away from you.

Sometimes, life really needs some experience. Maybe one day, when you are successful, you will thank your first love for "kicking" you and stimulating your potential for change. Making your ex regret may also be a good life experience.

Really learn to let go of your first love and yourself. May we part ways and live happily ever after.