What should I do if my wife contacts her ex-boyfriend? No need to resort to violence!

What men can't bear to part with the most is their ex-girlfriends, and women can't bear to part with their ex-boyfriends either, so many couples and even spouses always quarrel over their exes. In life, some men find that their wives have been in contact with their ex-boyfriends after marriage. What should they do at this time?

First, let the other party understand the seriousness of this matter.

Find out why they broke up in the first place, whether it was because of their parents or because they had no feelings for each other. If they chose to break up because they had no feelings for each other, ask them what the purpose of reconnecting is. If it was caused by external factors, then tell her clearly that you mind, even if you love her, you cannot accept her contact with her ex-boyfriend, which will greatly affect your relationship. If it goes on like this, it may lead to the end of your marriage. Let her feel the seriousness of the matter.

Second, give the other party enough trust

Sometimes, it is often because of one's own distrust that one checks the other's phone, QQ, or even monitors and tracks the other. These behaviors will cause the other party to be disgusted and resist, so that they will have a narrow-minded conclusion about you and are unwilling to listen to your thoughts on this matter. So you should first create a trustworthy feeling for your wife, so that she will not deliberately hide things from you when doing many things, and will take the initiative to communicate with you, which is very helpful for improving your relationship.

Finally, keep your bottom line

Men should pamper their wives, but that does not mean condoning them. Tell your wife that you have your principles and your bottom line. Hopefully, while you trust your wife, she will also give you enough respect. Let her think from your perspective, and let her talk about her feelings when you compare her behavior to yours. Some things can be tolerated, but some things must keep their bottom line and cannot be condoned.