Falling in love with a colleague? Five rules to turn a female colleague into a girlfriend

At work, we all have to come into contact with the opposite sex. As the saying goes, love grows over time. Many men will inadvertently like their female colleagues. When you meet a girl you like, how should you pursue her? If you want to turn your favorite female colleague into your girlfriend, you must learn the following rules.

Rule 1: Keep a low profile in front of others

Office romances are more common than we think, but most of them are carried out in secret. This is actually the first principle of office romances: "Keep a low profile in front of everyone." In the process of pursuing her, don't do things for her in front of everyone that you wouldn't do for others. Now there are such good tools as WeChat and QQ. What can't be said privately?

Rule 2: Don’t do anything conspicuous

Put breakfast on her desk every day? No. Ask her to watch a movie in front of you or her best friends? No.

Rule 3: The company is big, how to pick up people?

If the company is relatively large, how should you approach girls who work in the same company? The answer is very simple. Find a place with few people, on the way home from get off work, go directly to introduce yourself, and then chat for a few words. If you feel that you are getting along well, ask for their phone number directly. This is much easier than approaching on the street. The problem of feeling insecure is mainly to see whether the other person likes you or not, so your usual clothing image is very important.

Why do you need to pick up girls from the same company when there are fewer people around?

Because in front of others, it is easy for people to see your intentions towards the girl, and no matter how natural you act, it is difficult to avoid people making trouble, which causes a lot of trouble for the girl. Usually, without knowing more about you, she tends to put up a protective shield around you.

Rule 4: Don’t express your feelings in public

"You have a group of good friends, and they all support you in pursuing this girl. So at the company's annual meeting, amid everyone's cheers, you go up to her and confess your love..." Remember, it's best not to do this! If you have supporters, just let them secretly create more opportunities for you to be alone with her, and then pretend that you know nothing.

Why? Because before accepting a man, girls don't want to let people know that someone is pursuing them, otherwise it will reduce the chances of other men pursuing them. Women are not animals that are good at taking the initiative. The only right they can exercise is the right to choose, and the premise of choosing is to have as many suitors as possible. Therefore, the freedom to be pursued by men is very important to women.

Even if your friends all support you pursuing this girl, it is best not to let the girl know about this and just pursue her secretly.

Rule 5: Confidentiality is important

Although most women don't mind if their men have pursued other women before, there is a premise that this woman cannot still be in your life and hers. Therefore, unless everything is set in stone, confidentiality is the top priority of office romance.

Another advantage of the low-key pursuit in the workplace is that you can reasonably and naturally use two different attitudes to treat her alternately, an equal colleague relationship and a man-woman relationship in courtship. Sometimes this can create a kind of "sexual tension" and produce a "push-pull" effect. This is the unique advantage of office romance. You must know that under normal circumstances, playing hard to get can easily appear deliberate, but in a work environment it will be much more natural. In addition, women appreciate men who are focused and serious at work.