The reason why men are picky

In a marriage or a relationship, sometimes you feel that you love the other person very much, but the other person turns a blind eye and even feels that it is natural. At this time, you may feel that you are living a very aggrieved life and begin to wonder what you should do to make him satisfied and treat you better? Don't be picky about yourself. Then let's analyze the actual reasons. Why do men do that?

1. He actually wants to control you. Men have obvious attraction impulses.

Maybe you can break away at the beginning, but gradually, in order to obey the other party, you unknowingly listen to him more and more, which is called slavery. Because you have been accustomed to such a lifestyle for a long time, even if your own efforts can not get benefits.

For example, you cooked a table of dishes today, and after he finished eating, he started to criticize you for not cooking well, and told you to be careful next time and not to cook these dishes again. You don't feel bad, but at this time you have already had a subconscious state of mind. He will control your ideas, make you take his ideas as your ideas, and make him the center of everything. At this time, you have already lost your way.

2. He only indirectly uses you as a punching bag to vent his negative emotions.

Because he is sure that you love him very much and know how to work hard for him, he has a sense of honor in his heart. At the beginning, he becomes more and more demanding. Seeing your efforts for him, he will consider his own male chauvinism. If you observe carefully, you will find that when he is in a good mood, he is generally not so demanding. However, if he is in a bad mood, you will feel that he is always nitpicking. No matter what you do, he will not be satisfied, and even get angry with you. If you respond, he will also be furious, and he will not stop until he has vented his negative emotions. After he vents his negative emotions to you, his mood becomes better, but you are hurt, because he always severely hits your confidence, makes you doubt yourself, even hate yourself, and makes you reflect on whether you are really not doing well.

3. He continues to deny your efforts and creates the illusion that he is doing well.

For example, you cooked a lot of his favorite dishes tonight, but he saw them and said he felt uncomfortable today and had no appetite, saying that the food was too greasy. But objectively speaking, he was very good and ate everything very cleanly. You also felt that he ate it in order not to let you down. This shows that he only wants to accept your efforts, but he is not willing to work hard, and he also creates the illusion that he is very good and has worked hard for you. He loves to be harsh, which means he uses harsh methods to deny your efforts and devalue your efforts.