How to control ejaculation

During sex, men will ejaculate after receiving the strongest stimulation. Ejaculation makes men feel very satisfied and released, but generally speaking, the time of ejaculation is very difficult to control. If the glans is too sensitive, it is easy to ejaculate. The time of sex has a great impact on the quality of sex. Many men have the trouble of ejaculation time being too short. So, how to control when you are about to ejaculate? Let's take a look at the methods below.

Ejaculation is a reflex. If a man can really control his ejaculation process, then he can enjoy a high level of sexual arousal in any situation and choose when to ejaculate. He can let his sexual arousal reach a very high level and then temporarily drop to a lower level, then let it rise again, and then drop again, and go through such repeated fluctuations until he wants to ejaculate. In other words, he can keep the level of sexual arousal at the plateau level for a long time, and he can also complete the ejaculation reflex in time when his wife feels satisfied. In contrast, the sexual excitement of a man who cannot control the ejaculation process will rise straight up from zero and reach orgasm quickly, often without an obvious plateau. Not only his partner, but also he himself is dissatisfied with this, but he has no ability to choose this, so both husband and wife often fall into a dilemma. Since ejaculation control is a technical or habitual problem, its prognosis is not too bad. 80% of men can master this technique after 8 to 12 weeks of treatment and training. The manifestations of lack of ejaculation control are varied. Some men cannot control it no matter what kind of sexual activity; some only have premature ejaculation during sexual intercourse, but not during other sexual activities such as masturbation. Most men with premature ejaculation also have impotence. If both exist at the same time, the erection problem must be solved first, and then the premature ejaculation problem can be solved.

It is not clear why there are such large differences in men's ability to control ejaculation; nor is it clear why some men get better at it with age and experience, while others never have it. But one thing is clear: premature ejaculation is not as much about organic problems or the effects of drugs as impotence is. It is mainly related to lack of knowledge, concentration or skills. It is also clear that abstinence will aggravate the condition. Even a normal man will ejaculate too quickly when he first resumes sexual activity if he does not have sexual intercourse for several weeks. In addition, anxiety can also cause loss of control. For example, premature ejaculation often occurs during the first sexual intercourse of the night, but it improves after the second sexual intercourse. Generally speaking, men who lack the ability to control themselves simply fail to take the necessary behavioral regulation measures when they are highly aroused but have not yet ejaculated. This may be because they are not focused on their feelings and therefore cannot take appropriate actions; because they do not know when to adjust their pace in action; because they do not know what kind of adjustment should be made. British sexologist Ziebgerd proposed the following training plan.

The establishment of ejaculation control ability is inseparable from the following two abilities: one is the ability to focus more fully on your own sexual arousal and tension; the other is the ability to change your behavior in order to prevent or delay ejaculation. Men can affect the occurrence of their ejaculation by changing their behavior during the plateau period (actually the ejaculation control period). For example, slow down the pace, adjust the angle, take a break, and adjust your breathing; ejaculation control needs to be learned to master, just like riding a bicycle, the bicycle will not stop automatically, you must learn to balance. The plateau period (control period) represents both sexual arousal and sexual tension (anxiety). Most people who lack control ability may have both of these conditions at the same time. They often do not know the difference between arousal and tension, but both can make ejaculation happen quickly. When a man enters into sexual activity, his sexual desire or sexual tension will increase or strengthen. To enhance this awareness, he must focus on the sensations and feelings of his body. For most men, their sexual sensations mainly come from the penis and scrotum. He must know at what level of sexual arousal ejaculation will inevitably occur, and then take some measures to control ejaculation before reaching this point. The principle of ejaculation control training is that when a man or his partner stimulates the penis, he should do two things, one is to pay attention to his own sexual arousal/tension level, and the other is to stop stimulation or do something else to maintain ejaculation control. Doing this repeatedly can achieve the training goal.

If a man wants to ejaculate at the end of training, he is free to do so, but he should be careful to focus on the sensations and keep the stimulation low, not letting it happen too quickly. It should be understood that there may be 1 or 2 unintentional ejaculations at the beginning of training, and this is common and not to be worried about. It can even be a good thing, as it can help you determine what the control period is. If this unintentional ejaculation continues, then there is a problem, and I am afraid you will have to go back to the previous training content to get better control.

In order to get the most out of the physical exercises described below, men must focus their minds on their own feelings. Men who lack control over ejaculation often place too much blame on themselves for ejaculating too quickly. This is true, but it also creates pressure and interference for behavior change. Correcting this mindset will help change behavior. So deny your negative thoughts and constantly reinforce your positive thoughts. For example, constantly imagine yourself having achieved the desired control, several times a day, for 30 to 90 seconds each time, and imagine how well you are doing, including the entire process of sexual activity. Rehearsing this successful process several times every morning when you wake up or before going to bed will reinforce a man's positive thoughts.

4. Deep breathing exercises

Deep breathing can help men dispel arousal/tension, so it will help control ejaculation. Deep breathing should be deep, relaxed, and brisk, but some men are more tense than usual when taking deep breaths. They tighten the muscles of their chest, neck, shoulders, and even the muscles of their arms. How can this be called deep breathing? Sometimes even normal breathing is restricted.

Correct relaxed breathing should be accompanied by the expansion and contraction of the abdomen. When you inhale, the abdomen should expand, and when you exhale, the abdomen should shrink back. If you can't do this, you need to learn and master this method. You can think of your stomach as a balloon. When you inhale, it will expand, and when you exhale, it will shrink. Once you master this method, you can do this exercise as much as possible, especially when you masturbate or your partner stops stimulating you, you should take a few deep breaths. This deep breathing training can also be arranged during sexual intercourse. This requires a process of habit and adaptation, because it is against a person's subjective desire. The more excited a man is, the more likely he is to ejaculate early, breathe superficially, and have a rapid heartbeat. You can also imagine that the inhaled air will go down into the pelvis and relax the muscles in that area. The more relaxed they are, the more difficult it will be to ejaculate.

5. Masturbation training

There are many ways for men to masturbate, but the most classic one is to stroke or rub the penis shaft back and forth with one hand. This method is the most ideal when training ejaculation control. Some men masturbate by rubbing the penis on bedding or other objects (not actually using the hand directly), but these methods are not suitable for this training. Specific training methods can be carried out under the guidance of a doctor.