My husband is impotent, what should I do?

After marriage, Xiaoli found that her husband had no interest in her. She thought it was normal for a couple to do something sexual. Although she was new to marriage, she was still full of expectations and even downloaded a lot of sex techniques, hoping to make love with her husband. However, she found that her husband could actively cooperate at the beginning, but he would finish in less than a minute every time, or he would say he was tired from work. So what should I do if my husband is impotent?

1. Check the cause of your husband's impotence and see if it can be cured

Take your husband to a regular hospital for a comprehensive checkup to see if there is any way to treat it. This is the first step, and you should also be mentally prepared. Think clearly about what to do if it can't be cured. Don't blame your husband at this time, and do your best to treat it. Some sexual dysfunctions are caused by psychological factors, and excessive tension may also cause unsuccessful intercourse. Some are physiological diseases or congenital malformations. This requires a thorough physical examination, and of course you and your husband should go together to understand the real situation and treatment plan.

2. Actively treat and wait patiently

As long as there is a glimmer of hope, you should actively seek treatment to save your love. You can go to a good hospital for treatment and consult with some experts. Develop a more scientific treatment plan. At the same time, you should actively cooperate with the doctor to treat the disease and not put too much pressure on your husband. Psychological reasons may be easier to treat than physical defects. This is the same as the treatment of infertility. It takes long-term efforts to be effective. So you should be considerate and encourage each other. Although you cannot have sex, you can still caress each other physically.

3. Re-evaluate your relationship

Can your relationship withstand such a big blow? If you can, continue your love. If not, tell your husband your thoughts. If his disease cannot be cured, he will agree to break up. No one will say that you abandon your husband. It is your legitimate right to leave or stay. Here, I still advocate love and marriage with sex. Although there are women in their 20s who marry men in their 70s and 80s, we cannot say that it is not love. It is just that how much sacrifice the woman has to make and whether it is worth it is related to a person's values, love and life.

4. If you can’t stand it anymore, you can file for divorce

Sex is the foundation of love and a normal physiological need. If a man cannot fulfill his marital obligations, the wife can file for divorce, and the law supports it. Don't worry about whether your partner will be in pain after leaving you. You can help him temporarily, but not forever. It's better to suffer a short pain than a long pain. Cut it off when it's time to cut it off and continue to pursue your new life. Some people are afraid of the well rope for ten years after being bitten by a snake once. They may quit the hostel and refuse to accept the new boyfriend and delay the marriage. This is unnecessary. Luck is not that bad. You won't always meet such people.

5. Protect your husband’s privacy and never tell anyone else about it

A man needs to have dignity, a tree needs to have bark. If people know about your impotence, the sky will fall. Men are very sensitive about privacy in this regard. Even if you choose to divorce, you must not disclose the secret. This is a moral issue. Of course, you should also warn your husband not to deceive other people's feelings before the disease is cured. You need to find a partner, tell the truth, and the other party must accept this cruel reality. When two people get married, facing such a painful choice, no one will feel good. No matter what decision you make, you must respect the other party and protect the other party's honor and privacy.

6. When searching for a new home, remember to examine yourself

If you have decided to find a new home, remember to examine your own problems. This will not only help you adjust your mentality and allow you to devote yourself to the next marriage more quickly, but also reduce the possibility of the same problems occurring.