Personality traits of men with strong control desire

Many men feel that they are very good to their girlfriends or wives, caring about them all the time, offering them advice and guidance, but they are not happy and feel "restrained", and they often quarrel.

"Everything I said was right and was for your own good. Why didn't you listen?"

I don't know how many lovers have broken up because of this, and the quarrels are very long. Even after the divorce or breakup, they still talk about their dissatisfaction with each other.

In fact, the key to the breakdown of their marriage is the desire for control.

So today we will give some examples of the main manifestations of boys who have too strong a desire for control.

1. Continue to make decisions for your loved one

One of the most obvious manifestations of being overly controlling is that you will unconsciously make decisions for others, such as what your girlfriend should wear to go out today, whether she should go to a friend's party or not, and what to do about problems at work.

When two people live together, it is a very normal behavior for them to understand each other and give each other suggestions, which is conducive to promoting the relationship and increasing the certainty of the relationship between the two. However, people who are too controlling will expect the other party to follow his meaning completely, often without considering objective conditions or the true thoughts of the other party.

2. Strictly control your loved one’s social media

Controlling their partner's social media is one of the things that people with strong control desires like to do. What people with strong control desires want most is that they are the only one in the other person's world, so they will be extremely resistant to their partner getting along with others. This kind of resistance is not only against being gay with themselves, but even sometimes, they feel very uncomfortable when their girlfriends go out with women. They hope that their girlfriends will put all their energy on themselves every day.

3. Continuous distrust and frequent suspicion of the other party

Trust is the foundation of a relationship between a man and a woman. If a man often suspects that his woman has someone else outside or feels that she is seducing him, then it means that this man has a strong desire for control. If this kind of personal behavior is not resisted and persisted, it will even continue to lead to tracking, secret investigation, and continuous infringement of the other party's privacy, which will undoubtedly greatly damage the relationship between the two and cause the breakdown of the marriage.

4. Determine what others want your opinion to be

Men with strong control desires like to post a lot, and they must express their opinions on everything around them. In fact, if it were just that, it would be fine, but the controlling personality will continue to cause him to always require others to approve of his opinions. If the other party disagrees, he will continue to use various words and personal behaviors to help him achieve his goals. If you are willing to obey such a person, then maybe you can still get along with him, otherwise fierce conflicts may happen every day.

5. Always love to argue, which makes communication ineffective

Following closely, some similarities, boys with strong control desires like to argue very much. They have strong offensive capabilities when dealing with people. As long as any personal behavior or thing that threatens their "control" is worth fighting for. Orange Feelings (juziqinggan029) And usually in the eyes of such people, the boundary between right and wrong is very obvious, either right or wrong.

A major problem caused by this kind of personal behavior is that the communication between lovers becomes increasingly ineffective. Although the man with a strong desire for control keeps talking and discussing, he is actually unwilling to deal with the problem at all. In other words, he thinks the way to deal with the problem is "you listen to me and think what I say is right."