Why do men have no sexual desire for women?

We all know that people have sex more often when they first get together, but the frequency of sex decreases over time. We say we are too busy or tired, or simply have no interest. Why do we lose interest in sex?

To express it in formula: sexual attraction = possession + freedom.

The strong desire to merge into another person's body comes from two aspects. One is the surprise and intoxication we feel when the other person agrees to skin-to-skin intimacy. The other is the worry that the other person will not want to continue the lovemaking with you when you are infatuated. Unfortunately, if you like someone, you will find ways to possess the other person and make her dependent on you. In this sense, we are all selfish people who wear the most friendly masks to cruelly deprive our lovers of their freedom. Gradually, we erase their independence. Correspondingly, the passion you and she had in the past no longer exists.

There are other factors that can also lead to a decrease in sexual desire:

We all know how risky it is to hook up with someone: she might say no, or worse (you know). Hooking up is a request, and if you want to ask, you should feel safe and be rational in the face of rejection. Although we don't know each other, we are independent, have our own ideas, and live our own lives. Even if we fail, we can get away with it. But love makes us give up our independent lives, and our lives are intertwined, with almost no distinction between you and me. We will constantly make some requests to each other, asking the other party to make concessions or sacrifices for us: cook for yourself or order takeout tonight, whose house should we go to during the New Year, let her do housework at home instead of going out shopping... In this way, it seems too much to make requests in that regard. So I feel embarrassed to try something new. For example, having sex on the dining table or wearing sexy lingerie. When facing a partner with whom we have to argue and compromise every day, sometimes we are unwilling to lose face. We just don't want to take that step first. It seems easier to maintain the status quo and give up working on this relationship.

To sum up, if you want to rekindle your sexual desire, there is one trick that works every time. You may have tried it without realizing it. That is - have a big fight! A fight that may end in a breakup. A big fight often leads to sex! Think about it, you must have had such an experience! Because it is the fight that provides two necessary boosters for sexual desire.