Revealed: The Sexual Secrets Men Don't Want to Tell

Although men often play a more active role in sex life, did you know that men also have "sexual secrets" that they are reluctant to reveal? As a wife, understanding your husband's sexual secrets will undoubtedly be of great benefit to adding interest to the bedroom.

The man was afraid of being rejected.

When your husband sends you a sexual signal, he is not only expressing a sexual request, but also subconsciously saying, "You must accept me." If you say, "No! No!", "I'm too tired," etc., he will feel that his self-esteem has been hurt. At this time, men may lack their usual tolerance and suddenly feel dissatisfied. If you often reject his sexual demands, he may stop this courtship behavior, and problems may arise in the relationship between the two of you. Even worse, he may seek sex from others to gain a sense of "acceptance."

Don't completely reject your husband's sexual advances. This doesn't mean you have to always give in to him, but you should understand that this is a man's weak point. You can say, "I love you very much, but I'm too tired from work today. How about tomorrow morning?" Or you can say, "I'm not interested at all right now. Let's just hug each other and see how I feel later, okay?" In short, you haven't "got into the mood" yet. You can explain to him in a tactful way, and he will feel better. It is inappropriate to reject him outright or use too many blaming words.

Men like women who are more proactive.

The wife should occasionally act as a "sexual attacker" because men like women to show their love for sex. They often show great enthusiasm and curiosity about women's "sexual interest". It is often unexpected that women can mobilize men's sexual awareness. In addition, if men always play the active role in sex life, they may feel that it is monotonous and lacks novelty, and they always run the risk of being rejected. He likes you to be in his position, so you will understand how important it is for his sexual signals to be accepted by others.

Men like women with a sense of humor.

Making men laugh is a way to relax. Men often feel the pressure of responsibility, and they need to laugh to relax. So, when your husband tries to be humorous and you refuse to participate, he will feel that you lack understanding of him, and even feel that you are judging his behavior and performance. If a woman learns to make her husband laugh in bed and out of bed, or often express some humorous words and actions, her life will be more fun and his "sexual" interest will be doubled.

Men usually don't like to talk much during sex.

Studies have shown that men generally don't like to talk much with their wives during sex. When you say, "Honey, I like the feeling of being close to you," you may hear a few short and unclear words. If you keep talking about some trivial matters in life or work during sex, men may show some kind of impatience. At this time, you may feel ignored. In fact, he is too involved in the behavioral center of the right hemisphere of the brain and the language function cannot work. If you ask him how he feels about making love, he may prefer to remain silent because talking may distract his passion. Of course, this does not mean that you cannot talk, but there is no need to be disappointed because he doesn't say a word.

Men like to rely on visual stimulation to get into the mood.

Generally speaking, men are easily stimulated by vision and women are easily stimulated by hearing. This is why boys like to watch pornographic pictures for stimulation, while girls like to read romantic novels. This means that the source of men's sexual impulses is mainly your appearance, which also explains why men always like to look at women's bodies and clothes. Therefore, you should wear some sexy underwear occasionally. If you are used to having sex with the lights off, you might as well change it, or turn on soft lights, or light some candles in the room, because your husband will be stimulated by his visual effects, so let his eyes "feast" on your body. This may be the simplest and most passionate action you should do.

A man's erection is not always necessary for sexual intercourse.

Erection is due to the congestion of the penis. The reason for the stimulation may be sexual impulse, but it may also be caused by holding back urine or too tight underwear. In addition, erection occurs when you wake up in the morning. If you think that your husband's erection means that he has entered the "sexual state", this will only bring problems to your relationship. If you are not sure, ask him what he wants? For example, if he wakes up in the morning and hugs you, ask him if he wants to have sex or just hug each other? In this way, he will make a choice easily and freely, and be grateful for your care.