7 tips to help you pick a good man

What is the standard of a good man? If he is suitable for you, loves you, and you like him, then he is your exclusive good man. How to judge whether he is a good man? Why not observe and experience from the following 7 details. The secret of choosing a man is similar to shopping. No matter how much the clerk talks, it does not represent how good the item is actually. We must observe and evaluate it ourselves, and occasionally refer to word of mouth. A man who assures you how good he is may just be selling melons. A real good man may never brag about his goodness, but you can feel it from his behavior. When a man pursues a woman, it is like applying for a job interview, and the job title is called "boyfriend." A resume is just a stepping stone. Women need to evaluate whether the applicant is suitable for the job based on his speech, behavior, attitude, potential and future. The devil is in the details. Observe the following seven key details as reference indicators.

1. Respect, tolerance and values ​​from the perspective of dating:

A date is definitely a good time to observe the other person. From the choice of location, activities, and meals, see if he will respect your opinions. If you don't eat spicy food, he shouldn't force you to eat spicy hot pot, at least change to a longan hot pot. You can go to high-end restaurants and accept roadside food stalls. This means that this person is more flexible in life and the use of money. Will he respect your time and not be late for the date? If he is late, he will definitely contact you to tell you the estimated time of arrival, instead of letting you look around and wait anxiously.

2. Judging suitability and personality from conversation:

Chatting is very important in the relationship between the sexes. I always think that it is very important for two people to have something to talk about, especially for marriage partners. Finding a person who can talk to you for the rest of your life is happiness. A person's cultivation and personality can be seen from his conversation. Does he always ask about your mother with indecent rhetoric? Does he always talk about himself without listening? Are you interested in the topic he talks about? Does he only talk about some irrelevant things and cannot share his deeper thoughts and opinions? If you can't chat, you can only be a sexual partner, but if you can chat, you can be a spiritual partner .

3. Judging the degree of consideration from the small details of the interaction:

When dining together, does he take the initiative to get the menu, utensils, pour water, and order food? These small details can show whether he is a boss who waits for others to serve him or a considerate man who knows how to take care of others. When walking on the road, does he pay attention to your steps and walk on the outside of the road to protect you? When taking the escalator up, he will stand behind you, and when taking the escalator down, he will stand in front of you. If the date is too late, will he take you home or call to confirm that you have arrived home safely?

4. Judging a person’s character from his relatives and friends:

When pursuing someone, you will inevitably want to show your best side, just like everyone has to pretend in a job interview, so some HR departments will contact the job seeker's previous supervisor or colleagues to investigate and evaluate. The same is true for the "boyfriend" position. Find opportunities to get to know the other person's friends, colleagues, and family. See what kind of friends he makes, how he gets along with his colleagues, and how his family treats him. From his interactions with his relatives and friends, you may discover another side of him.

5. Trustworthiness from Workplace Performance:

A person who cannot be responsible for his work is likely to be unable to be responsible for his relationship. Changing jobs frequently may be a sign of insufficient stress resistance and lack of stability, which reveals that his personality may be immature. Never changing jobs may also be a sign of being content with the status quo and not striving for progress. Does he have ambitions for his work, or is he just perfunctory? If you ask him to take a leave or work off duty to accompany you because you are in a bad mood, and he does it, although he may please you temporarily, it also shows that his work attitude is not trustworthy. I really don’t think this is a good thing worth being happy about.

6. Romantic interest from the perspective of leisure life:

If you want to know whether a person is interesting or not, you can tell by asking him what he does during his holidays. He plays online games at home until late at night and then goes to sleep until he wakes up naturally. It is the same activity over and over again with almost no changes. If his leisure life is so boring, how can you expect the love between two people to be romantic? Unless you are also a rotten girl who stays at home, the two of you can turn into fossils and still be together.

7. Look at the person’s lifestyle and personality through his or her clothing and belongings:

A person's taste and personality can be seen from his clothes. People who wear suits and trousers all the time are more reserved. People who like casual clothes and jeans may be more casual and free. A man who dresses casually and has almost no idea, may even ask you to buy him underwear in the future. A man who wears clothes even if they are unthreaded, faded, or pilled is frugal by nature, and I'm afraid he also wants women to take care of him in his heart. People who admire famous brands but only buy knockoffs are more exaggerated. From a man's belongings, you can also infer that he may be a 3C addict, a hipster, a otaku, etc.

Although love is often blind, it is better to open your eyes and observe a few details first than to fall in love and then lament that you were blind!