Four signs that a man is having an affair

Derailment phenomenon 1: Sudden increase in expenses

After cheating, in order to please the woman, it is necessary to have a candlelight dinner, send roses, and drink coffee, which can reflect a man's gentlemanly demeanor and romance. What is romance? It is to slowly waste the numbers on the credit card with a girl, and let it go from high to low. This is a compulsory course for men in the love field. It's a piece of cake. If you can't even afford this little expense, how can a girl be willing to be romantic with you? Why would she play a love game with you, a married man, that will never have an ending and no status? If you meet a girl who has high material requirements, a house and a sports car are indispensable.

In order to keep this romantic relationship, the man had to save his private money desperately. Even if he still gives all the money he generously gave to his wife before, how much reluctance is there in his heart? Only he knows. If a man does not have extra income, he usually uses various excuses to not give all his salary to his wife; if he has extra income, he will not be as stupid as before - giving all to his wife without leaving a penny. Some men even quit smoking and drinking.

Le Mei's husband is a department manager in a company with a good income. However, no matter how much he earns, no matter how much non-operating income he has, he will give it all to Le Mei. In the sixth year of their marriage, her husband suddenly took back Le Mei's power and only gave her a salary. As for bonuses and extra income, he never mentioned a word. At home, her husband and her are still loving and affectionate. Le Mei has never doubted her husband because she absolutely believes in her husband's character. Over the years, he has never quarreled with her and treats her parents like his own parents. Once, Le Mei actually asked her husband why he suddenly stopped giving bonuses. Her husband said lightly: "The company's performance is not very good. Our senior management voluntarily gave up the bonus. Besides, my salary is not small. I won't take it. I will set an example for everyone."

Le Mei believed her husband's words without a doubt and praised him for doing the right thing.

Two years later, one day, her husband was taking a shower, and his cell phone in the bedroom rang. Le Mei picked up the phone. She knew she didn't mean to peek at her husband's phone, nor did she suspect him of doing something "shameful". She was just afraid of delaying important things. Since her husband became a manager, it was common for him to be called away from home by a phone call or a text message. She opened the text message, and was stunned: Ming, where are you? We haven't seen each other for a week. I really miss you, your kindness, your smile, and your smell.

Le Mei was completely stunned.

Cheating phenomenon 2: Frequent overtime work

A man who has an affair has to take time out of work to be with his lover, to experience the ecstasy and beauty of the warm and soft jade, so naturally he cannot go home on time to be with his wife. Of course, the wife will call and send text messages, asking the man why he is not home so late and who he is with.

Men usually answer without hesitation: Working overtime.

At first, the wife would tell him distressedly: Remember to eat dinner when working. However, as the number of overtime increases, the wife will become suspicious. The man will immediately make a face of grievance: I work so hard and work overtime, isn’t it for you and the children to live a better life? Otherwise, I will stay at home with you every day, and you will earn money to support me!

Most wives would feel guilty when they hear men say this, thinking that they have misunderstood their husbands.

Seeing that his wife had given up her suspicion of him, the man went home to accompany his wife a few times, coaxing her into a happy mood, and then continued to "work overtime" outside.

Chunxiang's husband is an ordinary worker in the factory, and he is having an affair with a migrant girl in the workshop. In order to prevent his wife from being suspicious, he only gives himself one "overtime" time a week, and the overtime time is not fixed each time. Every time he is ready to work overtime, he will prepare the phone number of the friend that his wife may call in advance, unify the friend's tone, and let his wife absolutely believe that he is working overtime and working hard to create happiness for her and the child. Chunxiang really thought that her husband was working overtime and never doubted him. Until one day, the migrant girl got pregnant with her husband's child and called home, she realized that her husband was with another woman every time he worked overtime.

Cheating phenomenon 3: Too many social engagements

Nowadays, men with a bit of ability like to socialize outside. Socializing is respectable and glorious for men, as if not socializing is not enough to prove a man's ability or his success in his career.

Women, too, mostly like men who have social skills.

Such a man can usually make money and provide sufficient material security for her and her children.

Therefore, smart men will openly develop extramarital affairs under the guise of socializing. When the wife begins to dislike him for socializing outside every night, the man's excuse is more sufficient than anyone else: You think I want to do this, and then he uses the example of his brother-in-law, his wife's biological brother, who goes home every day after get off work, has less than 1,000 yuan a month, always goes to street vendors to buy daily necessities, eats frugally, and still can't save enough for his children to go to college. His wife scolds him for being a fool every day. Do you want me to be that kind of man? If you do, I will stay at home honestly after get off work from tomorrow, cook for you, wash dishes, and do laundry.

When the wife heard this, she was immediately exhausted. Before hanging up the phone, she had to gently remind her husband: eat more vegetables and drink less alcohol.

The man hung up the phone, feeling so happy. He had won his wife's heart with just a bit of wisdom.

Fang Caocao's husband Zhao Yu is a lawyer. Fang Caocao has been retired for three years and has been a full-time wife at home. In Fang Caocao's words, her husband rarely comes home before 11 o'clock in the evening. Sometimes, he comes home in the early morning. Fang Caocao has long been accustomed to it. She never asks what time he comes back, where he goes, or what he does. Once when she was with friends, they talked about how to keep her husband from having affairs outside. Fang Caocao said, it's not that I believe in him wholeheartedly, but whenever I call him on the phone when I'm outside at night, he quarrels with me, saying that I'm looking for trouble, eating and drinking with him but still suspecting him! In fact, I've known for a long time that he's "not clean" outside, but what can I do? Without a job and a place to live, if I quarrel with him, I'll only

So, I would rather believe that he was out there socializing for his career than to speculate.

Cheating phenomenon 4: Absent-mindedness

When he returns home, he is restless no matter what he does, and is especially sensitive to the ringing of the phone. He refuses to answer the phone in front of his wife. If his wife asks him what's the matter, he will deny it with a rude attitude - What can be wrong with me? Are you doubting me? When this happens, I can tell you with certainty that he is having "something going on" outside.

As the old saying goes, a selfless heart has a broad world. A man who has no secrets outside will face all phone calls calmly at home, will not be absent-minded, and will not be rude to his wife's inquiries.

Jianan's husband is a technician at a real estate company. He usually lives on the construction site and comes home once a week. In the past, every time he comes home, he and Jianan feel like they are newlyweds, and they are inseparable. Later, the company got a shuttle bus, so they didn't have to live on the construction site every day. Jianan was so happy. In this way, the two of them didn't have to look forward to the weekend. However, when her husband came home, he seemed like a different person. He was always absent-minded. When his cell phone rang, he either went to the balcony to answer it or just said a few words and hung up.

Jia Nan secretly observed her husband, and she was very sensitive and soon found out that her husband was having an affair. Her husband did not deny it, and told her that the girl was a client of their company, and they had been living together for half a year, and she was pregnant, so he did not want to hurt her.

Jianan was completely stunned and screamed hysterically, "Do you have the heart to hurt me?"