Can male homosexuality be cured?

In people's secular concept, the union of men and women is reasonable, and homosexuality is not allowed, whether it is male homosexuality or female homosexuality, and the family will not accept it. Now more and more homosexuals are announcing to the world that they like the same sex, which is called coming out, mainly male homosexuals. So can male homosexuality be cured?

1. Key points for psychological counseling for parents of homosexuals

Some parents said: Doctor, please help us and treat our child's homosexual orientation to heterosexuality.

I can say with certainty that no doctor in the world today can effectively change the sexual orientation of homosexuals; no one can turn homosexuals into heterosexuals. If anyone can do this, he or she will win the Nobel Prize.

Based on this fact, I suggest that all parents give up the idea of ​​changing their children's sexual orientation and stop taking their children to see doctors in an attempt to "cure" their homosexuality. Not only in China, there are no such doctors, there are no doctors in the world who can change homosexual orientation!

During consultations, I often tell parents: It’s not that I don’t want to help you, it’s that I really can’t. If I had a way to change homosexuals to heterosexuals, I would have won the Nobel Prize. If I had a way to change homosexuals’ sexual orientation, then I wouldn’t have to work hard as a doctor in a hospital. I could open a clinic and set up a “sexual orientation change center”. I could freely and arbitrarily change homosexuals to heterosexuals, and also change heterosexuals to homosexuals. I would charge 10,000 yuan for each patient whose sexual orientation has changed. There are 26 million homosexuals in the country. If I specialized in treating homosexuals, wouldn’t I have made a fortune!

Doctors have no effective way to change a person's sexual orientation. They can neither turn a homosexual into a heterosexual, nor turn a heterosexual into a homosexual.

In the consultation, in order to convince the parents of homosexuals, I would tell them: homosexuality, the cause is currently unknown, and it is not something that the person concerned can decide on his own. If you want your child to become heterosexual, you can first use yourself as a test to see if you can change yourself from heterosexual to homosexual. If not, please respect your child's "homosexual orientation". When society cannot understand and accept homosexuality, do you, as parents, still love this child?

Now the world no longer regards homosexuality as a "disease" or "mental illness", so there is no need for treatment. Even if the cause of homosexuality has been found out, and even if there is a scientific way to change sexual orientation, in fact, there is no treatment for them, because the person himself will feel that only the current "homosexual" state is the real source of their happiness.

I will continue to tell parents: Now is the time to test whether you really love your child. If you really love this child, no matter whether he is homosexual or heterosexual, he is your child. He was your child in the past, is still your child now, and will continue to be your child in the future. I believe you will continue to love him. If you no longer love him because he is homosexual and drive him out of the house, and society does not accept them, how can you let them live?! Data shows that 27% of homosexuals have attempted suicide.

In the past, my counseling words would make parents despair. Now, I will also pay attention to giving parents of homosexuals some hope during counseling. I will say: There are a few individual homosexuals who will unconsciously become heterosexual when they are in their 40s or 50s. When parents hear this, they will eagerly ask: Then, will our children also change when they are in their 40s or 50s? I said: Maybe it is possible, but you can only wait and see, wait patiently until he is in his 40s or 50s... After hearing this, parents will be a little unwilling, but in the end, they will leave the clinic with a glimmer of hope. In fact, I am thinking in my heart: When the children are in their 40s or 50s, I don’t know where you will be at that time!

Psychological counselors will still explain to homosexuals that "the cause of homosexuality is unknown" and "it is the result of the combined effects of biological, psychological and social factors", that homosexuality is not intentional, and that homosexual sexual orientation is no longer considered a disease, etc. Even if they want to change their sexual orientation under social pressure, there is no effective scientific method at present. Of course, in psychological counseling, we will encourage homosexuals to actively develop and expand their entire personality and see what the effect is in the future. Maybe there will be some changes, maybe there will be no changes, it is hard to say. However, whether homosexual or heterosexual, the healthy development of personality is the theme of life.

Homosexuals tend to label themselves, saying "I am homosexual". At this time, I will ask: In addition to being a homosexual in terms of sexual orientation, what other characteristics do you have? What important roles do you play in life? What are your personality traits? How do you interact with others? How do you study and work...? In the end, I will let the visitor see that in addition to his homosexual orientation, he has many personal characteristics and a lot of personal prospects that need to be developed.

I often ask homosexuals: What do you love about homosexuals? They will give various reasons for their admiration. I will continue to encourage them: Love whoever you want, and you will gradually become whoever you want yourself to be. Doing so will increase your self-confidence and promote the full development and realization of human nature.

Just like heterosexuals, homosexuals also have many psychological problems, such as depression, neurosis, stress disorders, interpersonal relationship problems, etc. Regarding these psychological problems, the psychological counseling and treatment methods are no different from those of heterosexuals.

If homosexuals are to be given psychological treatment, the goal of treatment is to promote their personality perfection and development, just like heterosexuals, rather than to change their sexual orientation. If psychoanalytic treatment is performed, the therapist will find that in their "infant stage" and "early stage of the Oedipus period" when they are two or three years old, there will be some problems in psychological development, such as self-identification of sexual identity, identification of sexual roles, and interaction with both parents. Solving these psychological problems is aimed at perfecting their personality, not changing their sexual orientation!

For minors under the age of 18, if they have had a "homosexual orientation" since childhood, then objectively speaking, the possibility of them becoming "homosexuals" in the future is very high. However, during psychological counseling, we generally do not conclude that "you are homosexual" for minors. Instead, we tell them that their future development has

"Infinite possibilities"! Just like northerners like to eat noodles, while southerners like to eat rice. So, what will happen to northern children who grow up eating noodles? Some children will continue to insist on eating noodles and refuse to eat rice; some children like to eat noodles when they are young, but when they grow up and work in the south, they start to try to eat rice, and eventually they may like the taste of rice. In the end, whether you like to eat noodles or rice is up to you! Your personal inclinations and likes and dislikes will be respected by everyone.