How to treat social phobia? This method is the most effective!

In modern society, people seem to be getting further and further away from each other. In daily interactions, people are more cautious, fearing that the other party will cheat them. Over time, a mental illness has emerged in society, which is social phobia. So how can this disease be treated?

Shift your attention

Don’t be overly concerned about “maybe you will make a fool of yourself” or “what to do after you make a fool of yourself”. Accept your own shortcomings and mistakes. Don’t put too much pressure on yourself. “I must do well” or “I can’t fail again this time” attitudes often lead to new failures.

You can set a small goal of conversation every day

Start with the people around you, your family, friends, colleagues, and it can be public or private, but you should try to talk as much as possible, extend your talking time, and enjoy the process of talking and communicating. After that, you can get to know the people you want to know and interact with more people;

Go to crowded places

Keep smiling, overcome your usual disgust, don't refuse the opportunity to speak in public, take a deep breath before speaking, and tell yourself that it doesn't matter if you mess up, there will be next time. And the next time, if you continue to mess up, there will still be next time. Be more tolerant of yourself, be as serious and patient as helping a child learn to walk;

Don't demand perfection

Treat yourself and others with a relaxed and friendly attitude, give yourself more positive psychological hints, "Of course you can be friends with him/her", "It would be nice to go out for dinner together", express your willingness to interact with others, get to know the people you want to know, friends will make your world more open; encourage yourself to attend parties.

The minimum requirement for yourself is to just show up there, and you will have defeated yourself once. Next time, you may exchange phone numbers with the girl sitting next to you, which will be a big improvement. The next time, maybe you can also tell a joke in public to liven up the atmosphere.