Why do men always force women to do these things when they are intimate?

Have you ever been upset because a man made a mistake and refused to admit it? Have you ever thought about breaking up because of his unreasonable behavior? In fact, many couples have said in their love life that blindly moving will only make them tired. So, how to win a woman's heart?

Men's psychology: Why men don't like to admit their mistakes

1. When women ask questions, men feel reprimanded.

For example, when a woman asks a man "Where did you go today?", it is actually just a casual question, but the man will think it is a question, even if it is very weak, but he will feel "Are you blaming me?"

If the man then answers "I went out for a drink and socialize", the woman will usually reply "I've been socializing a lot lately", and the man's brain circuit will be "Ah, you are blaming me after all". The same question may have different answers, but men are the kind of creatures who think other people's questions are questions and are very incapable of handling them. There is nothing that can be done about it.

2. Men always want to prove that they are "very honest"

Men have their own way of thinking. Their brain circuits make them always want to prove that they are "very upright". This self-righteous thinking determines the way they deal with things. For example, when something falls, they will first think "Who put it here!", exclude themselves as the "culprit", and then get angry at the thing. This is a very common picture. This is the so-called self-righteousness, always wanting to emphasize that they are not bad, and thus determining the next action.

Similarly, men are not likely to admit their mistakes when they are arguing. Even if they know deep down that they are wrong, they don't want to apologize because it will destroy the image of integrity they have created.

3. Giving men the step down is a smart way to argue

Knowing these little tricks of men, women should treat this situation differently, that is, leave room for maneuver and negotiate to resolve it. In the previous example, women should not say "I have a lot of social engagements recently", but rather give a vague "Oh".

Of course, if you want to have a good exchange of ideas and come up with a perfect solution, such a conversation will not work, but if you show off your power and say something irrelevant to the pain, it will only lead to an argument in the end. Therefore, leaving the stage for men is the wise way to avoid meaningless arguments.

What to do after an argument

Although sometimes women can be smart enough to avoid quarrels with their boyfriends, quarrels are inevitable when two people are together, so dealing with quarrels has become a compulsory course in life. What should a woman do wisely after quarreling with her boyfriend?

1. Postpone the discussion and keep both parties calm

If a man is upset and wants to get it off his chest, a woman will often think that he will calm down after he finishes talking. In fact, this will only happen if she appreciates what he has to say. Remember, men are often self-righteous when they are full of complaints. If she is not prepared to appreciate what he has to say, or at least appreciate his point of view, then it is very important for her to postpone the conversation.

Most women don't consider a man expressing his feelings because they won't stop him if he can. It's rude for a woman to put off another woman's request to talk. It's also rude for a man to put off a woman's request to talk if he can listen. But if the man is angry and she can't agree or at least appreciate his point of view, then it's very important for her to put him off.

The method of postponing is also very important for her. She should not blame him, because that will only add fuel to his anger. She should use a few words to confirm his feelings, then ask to postpone the conversation, and then, without saying anything else, just walk away as if her behavior is very natural and everything is fine. This is a new relationship technique that will help him save face and calm down.

Women shouldn't say that.

You are angry, I won't tell you.

You don't care about me, why should I talk to you?

You don’t understand!

I don't like hearing you say that!

Women should say this

You have a right to be upset, but I'm going to wait a while before I speak.

I'd love to hear your thoughts, but I need some time to sort mine out first.

Let me take a moment to understand what you are saying, and then I will talk to you.

I need some time to think about what you said.

2. Re-communicate and explain clearly

Women must remember that men are not like women. Men need time to calm down and think things through before they can feel better. When he is upset and angry, asking him questions will only add fuel to the fire. After calming down, you need to strive for the opportunity to re-communicate with him, otherwise the relationship will only continue to be deadlocked. In the process of re-communication, both parties are likely to quarrel again because of the grievances they suffered in the previous quarrel. Therefore, the way to avoid re-arguing is to temporarily abandon the idea of ​​arguing about right and wrong, and be objective, objective, and objective again!

The best time to talk to a man

The best time to talk to a man is after he has had time to think about the problem, get rid of negative emotions, and regain positive emotions. Half an hour after a quarrel can allow him to calm down a little and think clearly about what he just did. He may even feel guilty for his bad attitude towards you. But it depends on the situation. If he still looks upset after being alone for a while, women should not force him to talk.

Wait until the next day and then carefully ask him what he wanted to talk to her about. If he says "nothing" but sounds less affectionate, it may mean that he needs some time to consider whether what he did for her is accepted and appreciated by her before he can start to recover his normal emotions. Just as a cold may no longer be contagious but the symptoms are not gone, a man may have solved his problems and eliminated his bad emotions, but still needs love and appreciation.

Women shouldn't say that.

In the re-communication, you can first talk about your understanding of the matter, and then talk about your personal feelings. Many people will say "How are you, and how I feel about you", but this sentence pattern of "How did you make me feel about you" can easily be misunderstood as accusation. When people are attacked, they will have the instinct to protect themselves, so they will instinctively deny it, even if it is true. The other party's reaction will make you angry, so you want to fight back, which may trigger a new round of quarrels.

Women should say this

A safer way to put it is "how you acted at that time, how I think you acted, so I acted like that at that time". At that time, it was "because of my own thoughts, so I felt this way", rather than you "making" me feel this way, which reduces the other party's motivation to deny and allows them to listen to you calmly. At the same time, emphasizing the other party's performance "at that time" implies that it does not refer to the other party's "now", conveying the meaning of "you may be different now", leaving room for the other party to change their attitude. It also emphasizes that my feelings were also the feelings "at that time", leaving room for changing ideas now. Therefore, it is helpful to focus on the present and let go of the influence of the past. "I think you are" can leave room for the other party to explain his or her behavior and language.

In fact, many times when men and women quarrel, it is just a misunderstanding, and it is enough to explain it clearly. Objective language can help people avoid subjective assumptions as much as possible, restore the original appearance of the matter, and get closer to the inner thoughts of both parties.

Solve problems and avoid conflicts

When facing a conflict, if you choose to avoid it instead of solving it, you may be able to reconcile this time, but you will quarrel over the same issue again next time, which will easily lead to a breakdown in the relationship in the long run. Therefore, after reconciliation, you should learn how to solve the problem with him to avoid the next quarrel. Before solving the problem, you must first make it clear that the problem is between the two of you, so both of you need to know where the problem lies, so you can't keep it in your heart, you have to speak it out.

Women shouldn't say that.

Could you be faster next time?

What will you do if you die?

Solving a problem requires efforts from both parties. Asking one person to work hard for something with a complaining or forcing attitude will only make that person unwilling to do it. Even if it is completed reluctantly, it will be done reluctantly, and such negative emotions may become the fuse of the next quarrel.

Women should say this

A safer way to put it would be, "I need this and I want you to do this, is that okay?" Using a tactful approach will make people feel respected, and they will be more likely to return the respect.

4. Reconciliation ceremony

The reconciliation ceremony can be a hug or a re-confession. Although such a ceremony is inconspicuous, it is very important because it means that the two people can return to the same relationship as before, with "actions and expressions that could only be done before"! Especially for two people who originally had a good relationship, such a ceremony is even more needed to gain peace of mind. Therefore, don't forget this ceremony after reconciliation!

How to win a woman's heart

Recently @英國报姐 posted a microblog that sparked heated discussion among netizens: "Reddit revealed a boy named PeterBang, who has a diary that records every time his girlfriend cries, including tears of sadness and tears of happiness.

After my girlfriend found this diary, she posted it online. I took a few photos to show you how other people’s boyfriends act as sweet men!” As soon as this Weibo post was published, it was quickly forwarded tens of thousands of times.

Other people's boyfriends are always so considerate and generous. Do you also want such a warm-hearted boyfriend? Come and check out the following points, and let your boyfriend become the "other people's boyfriend" that everyone envies!

When you have a girlfriend, you should be more mature and stable, quit playing games, smoking and drinking, be a sunny boy, communicate more with your girlfriend and enhance your relationship.

When doing things, you must be responsible and not hesitant. When you are with your girlfriend, you must protect her all the time. Remember to walk on the inside when crossing the road (the side where cars are coming, to block them for your girlfriend) to give her unlimited sense of security.

In terms of finances, of course you have to be generous and cover all expenses. When she says something is cute or she likes it, you should buy it secretly and give it to her on a holiday. In short, be generous.

You also have to be romantic. It's best to have a skill, such as guitar or harmonica. It doesn't matter if you don't have it. You can always watch the sunrise together. You have to think more deeply about some aspects and use some snacks.

To be loyal, you should keep some distance from other opposite sexes when you have a girlfriend. You can't be casual like before and treat her wholeheartedly, because a girl's IQ will drop by 80% at this time, while her EQ will increase by a corresponding amount, which is scary!

Be less angry. When you quarrel, analyze the reasons first. If you are also wrong, you must take the initiative to coax her. Even if you are right, you should do this. Then the girl will find that she is wrong and think you are infinitely tolerant.

Conclusion : In fact, when a man occasionally admits his mistakes, it makes a woman feel warm. After all, women also have pressure in life. If they have to compromise and worry about everything, they will inevitably lose their original confidence in your love. At any time, you should understand that love is a matter between two people. If you want to be happy, you must know how to give first!