The most important thing after a breakup is to adjust your mindset. Why live in pain?

Does a broken heart really make people very painful? It is true. After all, the person you once loved the most has left you, and you definitely cannot accept such a reality. However, a broken heart is not a big deal. At least we can start over. Are you still suffering from a broken heart? Then learn how to adjust your mentality!

1. Forget what you should forget.

You can't just forget the bad things and remember the happy things. This may make it more painful. Everyone should be able to selectively forget and accept. If it can bring you continuous happiness, then you can selectively remember it. For things that just bring you pain, you must forget as much as possible. For things that you cannot forget or accept, then use it as a driving force for change and it will naturally take root in your heart. There is no need to force it or feel guilty.

2. When you are with someone, be kind to each other; when you are alone, be kind to yourself.

If you have never been able to do this, then start working on it now. If you have treated the other person well but still cannot avoid the end of a broken heart, then treat yourself well. When someone comes along who can hold your hand and grow old with you, you can treat yourself well while treating others well.

3. After a breakup, don’t get involved with the other person anymore.

Sometimes women crave men's warmth and protection, and sometimes men miss women's tenderness, but if you can't adapt to a person, it will only make you and the other person more miserable. When you break up, don't be friends or physical comforters. If you want to be someone, just be the simplest or most familiar stranger.

4. Only after you have loved and suffered can you remain strong.

The bitterness of a broken heart may make you wait more rationally and cultivate more maturely in your next love. The pain of a broken heart may make you cherish love from the bottom of your heart. Only after experiencing the pain and torture of a real broken heart can people begin to mature. The awakening of love is the awakening of the self and the world. For the weak, a real broken heart experience is enough to destroy a world; for the strong, they will gain a world. So, it is better to regard every broken heart as a blessing road to the indestructibility of the diamond.