Revealed: How men can improve their ejaculation control

Men have always hoped that their "fighting power" could last longer, but in reality they are often unable to do so. Ejaculation occurs relatively quickly during sexual intercourse, which not only affects men's self-confidence, but also prevents women from experiencing sexual pleasure. It is expressed as a time problem, but in fact it is men's arbitrary control over ejaculation. Men seem to be unable to decide when ejaculation should occur. At least 1/3 of men have this problem, especially young men. With the increase of age, premature ejaculation tends to ease, but there are also many people who have it for life. Therefore, even men over 50 years old can still feel this problem. So, how to improve ejaculation control?

1. What is ejaculation control?

Ejaculation is a reflex. If a man can control his ejaculation process, he can enjoy high levels of arousal in any situation and choose when to ejaculate. He can let his arousal reach a high level, then drop to a lower level, then let it rise again, drop again, and repeat this process until he wants to ejaculate.

That is, he can keep his sexual arousal level at the plateau level for a long time, and can also complete the ejaculation reflex in time when his wife feels satisfied. On the contrary, the sexual excitement of a man who cannot control the ejaculation process will rise from zero and reach orgasm very quickly, often without an obvious plateau. Not only his partner, but also he himself is dissatisfied with this, but he has no choice, so the couple often fall into a dilemma.

2. Establish an ejaculation control plan

The ability to control ejaculation is inseparable from the following two abilities: one is the ability to focus more fully on your own sexual arousal and tension; the other is the ability to change your behavior to prevent or delay ejaculation. Men can affect the occurrence of ejaculation by changing their behavior during the plateau period (actually the ejaculation control period). For example, slow down the pace, adjust the angle, take a break, and adjust your breathing. Ejaculation control needs to be learned to master, just like riding a bicycle, the bicycle will not stop automatically, you must learn to balance.

The plateau phase (control phase) represents both sexual arousal and sexual tension (anxiety). Most people who lack control may have both of these conditions at the same time. They often don't know the difference between arousal and tension, but both can cause ejaculation to occur quickly. When a person enters into sexual activity, his sexual desire or sexual tension will increase or strengthen. To enhance this awareness, he must focus on his body's feelings and sensations.

For most men, their sexual sensations mainly come from the penis and scrotum. He must know at what level of sexual arousal ejaculation will inevitably occur, and then take some measures to control ejaculation before reaching this point. The training principle of controlling ejaculation is that when a man or his partner stimulates the penis, he should do two things, one is to pay attention to his own sexual arousal/tension level, and the other is to stop stimulation or do something else to maintain ejaculation control. Doing this repeatedly can achieve the training goal.

3. How to practice ejaculation control

Practice time: As long as both parties are happy and the man has no problem with erection, it is best to practice more than 3 times a week. The key is not to force yourself to have an erection. If you have difficulty with erection, reduce the number of training times, such as 2 times a week. The specific training plan will be introduced later.

Focus: Focus on the penis and scrotum, feel its swelling, fullness, excitement or other feelings, so that he will no longer worry or fear about ejaculating too quickly, disappointing his partner, whether his partner is willing to help you practice, etc. Once his attention is scattered or transferred, he must immediately refocus. You can imagine attention as a spotlight on the stage. Once the protagonist moves, the light will follow immediately. So after he is distracted, he can return to the level of arousal/tension, so as to ensure the effectiveness of practice.

Stop stimulation time: Once you feel that ejaculation is imminent, you should stop stimulation to allow the arousal/tension level to subside sufficiently, but not to the point where the erection disappears. Stop for 10 seconds, 30 seconds, or 90 seconds, depending on your individual situation. If you must stop again within 1-2 minutes of re-stimulation, then you should extend the stop time appropriately.

Activities during downtime: Briefly communicate with your partner to maintain emotional connection; relax and enjoy the feelings of ejaculation and arousal; breathe deeply to help you relax; actually experience the feeling of ejaculation control; or just lie there and do nothing.

What to do if you ejaculate during practice: When a man is not practicing, he can ejaculate as he wishes, regardless of the number of times, as long as it does not affect his erection ability during practice. It is best not to affect the implementation of the original training plan because of sexual arrangements.

If a man wants to ejaculate at the end of training, he is free to do so, but he should be careful to focus on the sensations and keep the stimulation low, not letting it happen too quickly. It should be understood that there may be 1-2 unintentional ejaculations at the beginning of training, and this is common and not to be worried about. It can even be beneficial and help you determine what the control period is. If this unintentional ejaculation continues, then there is a problem and I am afraid you will have to go back to the previous training content to get better control.

4. Deny negative ideas

In order to get the most out of the physical exercises described below, men must focus their minds on their own feelings. Men who lack control over ejaculation often place too much blame on themselves for ejaculating too quickly, which is true, but it also creates pressure and interference for behavior change. Correcting this mindset will help change behavior. So deny your negative thoughts and constantly reinforce your positive thoughts. For example, constantly imagine yourself having achieved the desired control, several times a day, for 30-90 seconds each time, and imagine how well you are doing, including the entire process of sexual activity. Rehearsing this successful process several times every morning when you wake up or before going to bed will reinforce a man's positive thoughts.

5. Deep breathing exercises

Deep breathing can help men dispel arousal/tension, so it will help control ejaculation. Deep breathing should be deep, relaxed, and brisk, but some men are more tense than usual when taking deep breaths. They tighten the muscles of their chest, neck, shoulders, and even the muscles of their arms. How can this be called deep breathing? Sometimes even normal breathing is restricted.

Correct relaxed breathing should be accompanied by the expansion and contraction of the abdomen. When you inhale, the abdomen should expand, and when you exhale, the abdomen should shrink back. If you can't do this, you need to learn and master this method. You can think of your stomach as a balloon. When you inhale, it will expand, and when you exhale, it will shrink. Once you master this method, you can do this exercise as much as possible, especially when you masturbate or your partner stops stimulating you, you should take a few deep breaths. This deep breathing training can also be arranged during sexual intercourse. This requires a process of habit and adaptation, because it is against a person's subjective desire. The more excited a man is, the more likely he is to ejaculate early, breathe superficially, and have a rapid heartbeat. You can also imagine that the inhaled air will go down into the pelvis and relax the muscles in that area. The more relaxed they are, the more difficult it will be to ejaculate.

6. Masturbation training

There are many different ways for men to masturbate, but the most classic one is to stroke or rub the penis with one hand. This method is the most ideal when training ejaculation control. Some men masturbate by rubbing the penis on bedding or other objects (not actually using their hands directly), but these methods are not suitable for this training. Specific training methods can be carried out under the guidance of a doctor.

If you can train in the above way, I believe that men's ejaculation control ability will be greatly improved. However, if the training effect is not achieved in a short time, you can use LELO's sex toys Noya during sex to enhance your wife's happiness experience.