What to do if a man cheats

In my country, when women are not married, most of them will devote themselves to the family. For them, the family is everything, but the other side is often not like this. In this relatively open era, there are more and more men who cheat, but what should we do if men cheat? Can we only cry, make a fuss, or even hang ourselves? In fact, women should still treat men who cheat with an ideal attitude.

The problem of men cheating is a problem that many women are facing nowadays. So what should you do when you encounter a man cheating? How should you face it? If you are a generous woman, then smile and comfort yourself: It's nothing. If it were a society with three wives and four concubines, wouldn't you be strangled to death? Fortunately, it is a monogamous society now, just treat it as the old society, it doesn't matter! But what will happen after comforting? It may be a divorce, or it may be because of the intervention of the "mistress", causing your family to be in turmoil. No matter how generous you are, you can't accept the status of a "living widow". Or the man will be ashamed of your generosity, and then he will not want the mistress and return to the family. For these two results, the success and failure ratios for women as first wives are 50% each. Faced with such a situation, how can we stay calm and minimize the losses? Why not try the following method:

Tenderness is like water, and gentleness overcomes strength. No matter what a man does with his mistress, don't expose his shortcomings first. If you turn a blind eye, and take out your wedding photos when he is at home, recall the time when you just got married, take out your love photos, recall the sweetness of love, take out your baby photos, recall the joy of becoming parents, the tenderness in the man's heart may suddenly become clear because of your "inadvertent" request. If your man still has a little conscience, he will look back and re-examine your feelings and your marriage. The siege of marriage "crying, making a fuss, and hanging oneself" will only accelerate the breakdown of the marriage, and make your man more firmly believe that choosing you is a mistake, but it will not save your ruined marriage. Women are made of water. At this time, just be like water. It is worth it to endure a little bit of grievance in exchange for a harmonious family.

Take him by surprise and attack him when he is unprepared. As the "first wife", you must remember not to be impatient. Don't be impatient, use your gentleness and kindness to remind him that he still has a family. Make a "concerned" phone call every day. If he tells you that he has a social event in the evening and cannot go home, then, as a wife, you should have a red warning. He is likely to be fooling around with his mistress. You can wait for him to come and follow him quietly on the route he must take after get off work. If they are just going to a restaurant for dinner, as the wife, you can walk up to them gracefully, greet the mistress with a proud attitude, and ask your husband by the way: "Are you having dinner with your colleagues? Go home early. My children and I are waiting for you at home, and I believe you will be home soon, right?" Although you will feel very wronged, you should first pour a bucket of cold water on the other party's arrogance in terms of momentum! Of course, in order to avoid your husband's suspicion that you are following him, you can always take a look at the surrounding geographical environment. If there is a supermarket, it is to buy things for the children, and if there is a restaurant, it is to buy the food that the parents like. In this society, even a tiger will not eat its own cubs. In the eyes of men, wives are always better than others, and children are always better than their own. No matter how unfilial he is, they are still his parents. No matter how unfaithful he is, he is still the father of the child. Therefore, as a woman at this time, parents and children are your first choice.

Take control of finances and seize opportunities. The Chinese custom is that men are responsible for external affairs and women are responsible for internal affairs. Therefore, most men will hand over their money to their wives to manage, and they only need to take care of external affairs. When you find that the situation is not right, remember: I will leave quietly, without taking a cloud, but only taking all the property. Transfer all your savings to your parents quickly. Unless your parents are no longer around, do not transfer them between brothers and sisters. Brothers should settle accounts clearly. In today's society, people's hearts are not as good as they used to be. People are drifting with the tide. In this society, don't trust anyone except your own parents who will not harm you. Of course, this is not to destroy feelings. This is just a basic requirement for women to learn to adapt to society and protect themselves. Even if you want to leave, you must make plans for your children and your own future. As the saying goes, if you are unkind, I am unjust. If a man can treat you like this, he will not cherish the relationship between you, so don't expect to leave him benefits and make him grateful. That is just a stupid thing for a stupid person to do!

In fact, it is not uncommon for men to cheat in today's society, so the key to dealing with such a situation is to use wisdom and not be impulsive. You should know that you don't necessarily lose badly if you encounter such a situation. As long as you use the right method, you can defend your dignity.