What to do if a man has an affair?

In modern life, emotions are a complex issue. Many people are prone to making mistakes in emotions, which has a great impact on their lives. For example, it is very common for men to have an affair. This is a manifestation of infidelity to the other half, and it has a very serious impact on the relationship between men and women. We need to take this issue very seriously. Let's take a look at what to do if a man has an affair? I hope everyone can understand it.

According to relevant surveys, 70% of men have extramarital sex after two years of marriage, and most of the victims are women. Recently, more and more wives have received psychological counseling because of extramarital affairs. Facing their philandering husbands, many wives are helpless and at a loss. It is very necessary to explore how the injured wives can deal with their husbands' extramarital affairs and minimize the harm to themselves. They should take a rational approach.

1. Don't dwell on this matter. Put it aside for a while. Tell him your inner feelings and thoughts honestly and see his reaction. Convince yourself to believe what he says. Don't follow up or look for evidence. This is equal to self-abuse. Extramarital affairs have their own rules. The first three months are the passionate period. It is difficult to interrupt it. Attacking at this stage will put your marriage in great danger. Emotional matters cannot be solved simply and roughly. After half a year, men are more willing to take care of the interests of marriage in extramarital affairs. If this man still loves his family and wants his marriage, it will generally end naturally in six months to a year.

2. Don't go to that woman to negotiate. Most of the third parties nowadays are justified. They will say how much your husband loves her and even expose how close they are. If you go, you will only bring shame upon yourself because third parties who destroy other people's families often have low moral standards. Don't attack this woman either. To belittle her is to belittle your husband's personality, which will arouse his anger and reduce his guilt.

3. Don’t publicize it everywhere. Although men are unfaithful, they care more about their social image and have a strong sense of self-protection. If outsiders know that he has an extramarital affair, in order to avoid being accused of being morally corrupt, he will take the initiative to file for divorce to prove that his original marriage was painful and loveless. This is especially true for state cadres and civil servants, who choose divorce to prove their innocence as “victims”.