The harm that foolish filial men do to their wives

For many people, it is a kind of virtue. Because it has been said since ancient times that filial piety comes first among all virtues. But there are many kinds of filial piety. Some people's filial piety is truly from the heart, but some people's filial piety is a kind of foolish filial piety. Foolish filial piety is manifested in blindly obeying any request of parents, without thinking from the heart about the right and wrong of this matter or other things. This leads to some men who usually do not like women causing great harm to their wives. So what kind of harm will foolish filial men cause to their wives?

1/In the eyes of foolish filial men, they think their parents are never wrong. Especially in the conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, foolish filial men do not distinguish right from wrong and always blame their wives. They always think that there is only one parent and they can change their wife if they lose her. No matter how wrong their parents are, they are right. They obey their parents in everything and have no sense of right and wrong. His parents always think that having a filial and obedient son is enough. Over time, they don't take their daughter-in-law seriously at all. No matter whether their parents are right or wrong, they will obey and execute them absolutely, and have no sense of right and wrong.

2/ As a person, we should be grateful to our parents and be filial to them, but we should not be blindly filial. A wife's position in the family is determined by her husband's attitude. If a man listens to his parents in everything after marriage, it will be a disaster for his wife. Once a dispute arises between his wife and his mother, no matter right or wrong, he will stand on his mother's side and never speak a fair word for his wife. Your wife did not marry you to fulfill your blind and foolish filial piety.

What to do if you meet a foolish and filial husband

Tell your husband clearly that I have no objection to you being filial to him in any way you want, but you are not only your mother's son, but also the father of my husband's children. You have obligations not only to your mother, but also to us. We are married, your mother is my mother, I will respect and be filial to your mother, but I can't be a foolish filial son. Your mother treats me well, so I will treat her twice as well.

I can comply with reasonable requests, but I absolutely cannot deliberately make things difficult for you. Would your mother deliberately make things difficult for her daughter? I married you to live a good life, not to quarrel over trivial matters.

You ask me to treat your mother in this and that way, but can you do the same to my mother? Has my mother let you bully me? Does my mother want me to be bullied in your house? My mother will feel bad if I am bullied. You are not the only one who has a mother. I cannot let my mother raise me to this age with so much hardship and worry about me every day.

You and I are a family. You will spend your whole life with me. You, me, and our children are a family. We must respect the elderly. Blind obedience and foolish filial piety are the root cause of family conflicts. Who wants to live in the smoke of gunpowder? Moreover, human desires are unlimited. Blind obedience will only lead to insatiable desires.

You are blindly filial and don't know right from wrong. Does your son have to be like you? As a mother, I don't want my son to be like you and don't know right from wrong. Besides, who would be willing to marry a girl to a family that doesn't know right from wrong? Who can respect a person who doesn't know right from wrong? You are not only your mother, but also mine and my children's. You are blindly filial and don't know right from wrong. As a husband, you are not a good husband. As a father, you are not a good father. As a son, you are not a good son.

Tell my mother-in-law that being rude is to sow discord between us and our husband and wife, and that she is a sinner in the family. As the old saying goes: It is better to demolish ten temples than to break up a marriage.