What is the Seven-Year Itch? What are the causes?

Marriage is a relationship that requires the joint efforts of both parties. Only when both parties give their sincerity and efforts together can they reap perfect happiness. Friends who have entered the palace of marriage, remember to cherish it. So what is the seven-year itch?

1. Definition

The "seven-year itch" generally refers to the fact that people may feel bored and dull due to the dull routine of married life in the seventh year of their marriage and have to go through a crisis test.

The term “Seven-Year Itch” comes from the fact that human cells complete their overall metabolism once every seven years.

A synonym for "affair". The American sexy actress Marilyn Monroe once starred in a movie called "The Seven Year Itch", which was based on this theme. As the movie became a hit, "The Seven Year Itch" became a synonym for "affair". It is a Western proverb that has been widely used in Chinese and is even better known to Chinese people than its origin (the movie "The Seven Year Itch").

The seven-year itch means that many things will have problems in the seventh year regardless of human will, and marriage is no exception. Therefore, the "seven-year itch" generally refers to the fact that people may feel bored and boring due to the dull routine of marriage life in the seventh year of marriage, and have to go through a crisis test (referring to the possibility of extramarital affairs, extramarital affairs, and cheating). This test is a turning point in the relationship. Once successful, the relationship can develop in a healthy direction; otherwise, the two may go their separate ways and fall apart, which may eventually lead to the disintegration of the relationship and separation. Of course, if there are really problems in the marriage, it does not necessarily take seven years, it may be longer or shorter, it may only take one or two years, or even soon after marriage, the itch may arise.

2. Causes

1. Just because I'm too lonely

Most couples who divorce are separated from each other, do not have a normal sex life, and their relationship is not as passionate as it was at the beginning. If one of the couples cannot stand the loneliness at this time and has a third person, the marriage may fall apart in an instant.

2. Lack of understanding and care

Most men, because of their social roles, are sometimes reluctant to speak out about their pain and stress, and often keep it in their hearts. At this time, men need more understanding and care. Women also have their own families, and there are a lot of things to do at home, so it is inevitable that they will neglect something. There are too many trivial things in daily life, and they always lose sight of one thing while focusing on another. Every day, they are busy with computers, TVs, and phones, and their lives have completely become monotonous and gorgeous.

In fact, it is okay to enjoy a high-quality life, but it is best not to become a slave to it. It is recommended that the couple often turn off the phone, live an unplugged life, go out for some fun, and then go back to the days of love together.

3. Disharmony in sexual life

Confucius said: "Food and sex are human nature." The so-called food and sex are human nature, which means that sex life is as important as eating. There is an old Chinese saying: "Man is iron, rice is steel, and one meal without eating will make you hungry." If the sex life of the couple is not harmonious for a long time, then the marriage life will not be happy and satisfactory. Sometimes men are self-righteous and always like to push the responsibility to women. They blame their wives for not knowing how to innovate, and also blame their wives for not doing their duty as women. The fault lies with women. This is of course chauvinism. Both men and women are responsible for the disharmonious sex life. Men cannot only solve problems and enjoy themselves without exploring interest and fun.