9 types of men's behaviors in bed that women can't stand

Whether it is love or an affair, a man's "bed quality" cannot be ignored. No foreplay and poor personal hygiene are all "bed qualities" that men have to ignore. Let's take a look at what men's bed behaviors women can't stand the most!

Bad behavior 1: Smoking in bed, not brushing teeth or taking a shower before going to bed

What does it feel like to kiss a man who has a mouth full of smoke as soon as he opens it? He doesn't brush his teeth or take a shower before going to bed, and his whole body is filled with the stench of sweat and feet. Having sex with such a man is not a pleasure at all, it's simply torture.

Zhang Bin, director of the hospital's sexual medicine department, said that sex emphasizes the willingness and respect of both parties, leaving each other with good memories, and personal hygiene is the minimum respect and a manifestation of self-esteem. Men who are clean and have no odor will undoubtedly be more popular with women. Odors will seriously interfere with sexual enjoyment. Therefore, for men, keeping themselves clean will make them more pleasing to women in bed.

Bad behavior 2: He is a rookie, but he thinks he is a superman

Generally speaking, men like to brag about their skills in bed, such as how many times they can have sex in one night. It is normal for men to care about their reputation, but if a man is a novice in bed and still insists on being proficient, women will think he is hypocritical and even feel cheated.

Zhang Bin said that if a man brags about how strong he is, he is actually weak. Think about it, in bed, whether you are strong or not is something you know very well, but if you still brag about it, it can only be said that this is just a man covering his ears and stealing the bell. Don't brag about how strong your sexual ability is, the key is to make her climax!

Bad behavior 3: Complaining about a woman’s body or not knowing how to have sex

In bed, two people are naked, and the man will start to ask the woman how she is here and there, such as "Why is your belly so fat?" etc. This is a nightmare for women.

Commenting on a woman's body in bed is a taboo in sexual relations. It is a big blow to women. Women may lose their confidence all of a sudden. In sex life, when the other party is uncomfortable and embarrassed, that is, when sex fails, for women of any body shape, she is not wrong, it is just a matter of whether the man recognizes it. If you comment on a woman's body in bed, she will not only feel uncomfortable, but also feel very inferior, and she will never want to be naked in front of you again. Moreover, it is very impolite for men to make various comments on women's bodies, which makes people feel disrespected.

Bad behavior 4: Frequent phone calls or text messages in bed

Originally, both husband and wife were busy with work and did not have much time to have sex. Unexpectedly, the husband was concerned about too many things, such as stocks, current affairs, and work. He would make phone calls and send text messages every time he went to bed. As a result, he would receive a call at the critical moment and had to interrupt, which made the woman beside him feel neglected.

Marital sex emphasizes mutual enjoyment. The sexual intercourse process goes through flirting, excitement, maintaining excitement, climax and other processes. If there is an interruption in the middle, you have to start over again. It is not so easy to get both parties to synchronize and start again. Therefore, before sexual intercourse, both parties should deal with other matters first to avoid affecting their mood.

Bad behavior 5: No foreplay, just rough sex

Some men are just too impatient. Once they get into bed, they go straight to the point, making women feel uncomfortable because their bodies are not ready yet. As a result, it’s over in two or three minutes, making women feel like they are just a tool for sexual gratification.

Lovemaking is a sexual exchange between two sexes, so the latter emphasizes the willingness of both parties, the enjoyment of both parties, the benefit of sexual stimulation and the sublimation of love, and the natural feeling of the flirting process. If the main goal of the man is to have sex, then he subjectively or objectively ignores the feelings of the woman, which is very hurtful.

Bad behavior 6: Not willing to wear a condom or not taking contraceptive measures

For couples who do not want children, if a man never thinks about contraception when going to bed, he is most likely a man who never wants to take responsibility. He is either childish or does not want to be responsible.

Cai Liuhong, deputy chief physician of the Department of Sex Medicine at the Third Affiliated Hospital of Sun Yat-sen University, said that there are two reasons why men are reluctant to wear condoms: one is that they feel that wearing condoms is "itching"; the other is that they subconsciously think that contraception is a woman's business. They don't even care about accidentally "creating a life" and don't care about the risk of abortion for women. Taking contraceptives may cause irregular menstruation. Therefore, in sex, women should take the initiative to control the process and method of sexual intercourse and should not be submissive. As a man, you should have a strong sense of responsibility to take care of the other party, which is the minimum "bed quality".

Bad behavior 7: Too lazy to work, always asks women to work

Originally, men should be in the dominant position in bed. If they are too lazy to contribute and women have to do it every time, it will be very frustrating.

The process of sexual intercourse is usually initiated by the man, and the woman is in a passive position. This is a general rule. For some special stages, the woman takes the initiative, and the man can occasionally take a break, but if the woman is required to do the hard work every time and he waits to enjoy, it feels very selfish. If the man is really physically weak, but can't bear to see the woman suffer alone, there is nothing wrong with the woman taking the initiative. However, the "you want it, you do the hard work" approach is very annoying.

Bad behavior 8: Taking photos and recording videos of themselves in bed, and posting them online after breaking up

Too many women have had sex videos or photos exposed by their ex-boyfriends, who either threatened them with money or beat them up in retaliation. This exposure, forced by their self-esteem, often drives women crazy.

Cai Liuhong believes that this is extremely unethical behavior. Because such people cannot get the person, they resort to selling the details of other people's private lives to achieve other purposes. They have a dark side in their psychology and are selfish and vicious. Therefore, women should not let others take bed photos or sex videos casually, because you can't guarantee that one day you will meet a very bad man and it will be worthless.

Bad behavior 9: Making excessive demands

Most women like a normal sex life style, but some men always want women to give them oral sex, or spray semen on women's bodies for no reason, etc. This kind of behavior will always make women unacceptable, or even disgusted.

Cai Liuhong said that one of the principles of love is voluntary and harmless, both parties are willing, and no harm is caused to either party. If you really love each other, you must understand each other's desires and habits in advance. During foreplay, you can ask for each other's opinions, negotiate step by step, and adjust your own composure. If the woman is unprepared and makes excessive sexual demands, it will make both parties awkward and leave unhappily.