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Primary Virtues

Virtue can also be called conduct. Why do we put virtue first? There is an old saying in "Cai Gen Tan" that says "cultivating oneself and building virtue is the foundation of career". The ancients attached great importance to cultivating oneself and building virtue, and believed that it was the foundation of career. The career mentioned here is not what we call career now, but doing things and doing business. Sima Guang once used this standard to judge people: those who have both virtue and talent are saints, those who have more virtue than talent are gentlemen, those who have neither virtue nor talent are mediocre people, and those who have more talent than virtue are villains. He also sighed: If you are not a saint or a gentleman, you would rather be a mediocre person than a villain. It can be seen that no matter what you do, virtue comes first. Therefore, virtue is the most important thing in life.

Second nature of understanding

There is an old Chinese saying: The master leads you to the door, but the practice is up to you. Before the age of 18, much of our knowledge is literal, but the meaning behind the literal may really have to wait until we are 18 and start to enter society before we can fully understand it. There is a saying in calligraphy: the power can penetrate the back of the paper, which refers to the skill of the calligrapher. Our life experience will tell us that in addition to understanding the literal meaning, the meaning behind the words may be more meaningful.

Because once we enter society, we accept social rules, not only the literal rules, but also the rules behind the literal rules. These are things we may not learn in middle school or even in college. Our teachers cannot explain them, our parents cannot explain them, and no one else can explain them. We must rely on ourselves to understand them. Whether this understanding is strong or weak, after we truly become adults and enter society, it will play a crucial role in determining our life coordinates and establishing and grasping our life values. The ability to understand life is the second nature, understanding.

Third-Nature Resilience

There are many people in this world, and everyone is chasing their own dreams. But whether everyone's dream can be realized in the end depends on resilience. Resilience refers to a tenacious and persistent spirit and an unyielding will. Because the operation of society is not as strict as the track of dreams set by each of us. There are always bumps and bumps, and there are always ups and downs. In the face of ups and downs, when the development track is inconsistent with our own ideals, or even when conflicts occur, should we be pessimistic, complain, be disappointed, give up, or persevere and persevere? Without resilience, we cannot reach the other side of our ideals. Without resilience, perhaps we will miss success at the last moment. Those who can persevere have mastered the magic weapon to win in the world - waiting while enduring, and making progress while waiting. This is the third quality, resilience.

The fourth blood

It is not a problem to be full of vigor and personality when we are young, but this world does not develop according to our thoughts and wishes. There are so many hardships, so many bumps and bruises, so many frictions and disputes, so many things go against our wishes. When we are no longer young, even after our youth has passed, can we continue to maintain our own personality and the vigor we have been pursuing for our ideals? Especially at a certain critical moment, we are indecisive, we look back and forth, we are hesitant, we are helpless, or we are not surprised by honor or disgrace. At that time, we may really miss the success - the dream you set when you were young. It is also important to have some bloodiness, especially after middle age.

Fifth Sense Memory

If the first four qualities are the Tao - the Tao is very important. The Tao is the philosophy of our life and the most fundamental guiding principle for us to understand the world, analyze the world, grasp problems, and solve problems - then the next quality is the technique, and the technique is also indispensable. What is this quality? It is memory. Memory is also very important, and we must never underestimate it.

Psychologically speaking, an action must be repeated seven times before it can be remembered. Our brain cells remember things little by little. Although we have developed less than 10% of it, it is enough for us to become qualified people who can make a living in society. However, if we can remember more knowledge in our brain cells, not only more knowledge, but also more lessons. Of course, it is best if these lessons are the lessons of our predecessors, rather than the lessons we have learned with our youth, our lives or other things, then we can really get twice the result with half the effort. Being good at finding lessons from historical experience, being good at finding experience from other people's lessons, and training to improve our memory is a shortcut for us to avoid taking detours.