Will a man with low self-esteem avoid relationships?

If a man has low self-esteem, he will often suffer more setbacks in his relationship. For example, a man with low self-esteem hopes to be protected by a girl, sometimes he will avoid relationships, and he is often not confident about relationships. For such a man, he must adjust his mentality, establish good self-confidence, participate in more social activities, and improve his self-cultivation. Let's take a look at this aspect.

Will a man with low self-esteem avoid relationships?

Why do boys with low self-esteem deliberately stay away from girls? In fact, it is not because they hate the girls they like, but because they are worried about being rejected. If he/she is someone you like, will you hate him/her? Many boys with low self-esteem have a mentality that when they see someone they like, especially if the other person is worse than themselves in all aspects, they will feel that they are not worthy of her and that there is no possibility for them to be together. Even if the other person is not as good as themselves, boys with low self-esteem will give themselves a wrong assessment.

Boys with low self-esteem are often accompanied by a deep worry: I am afraid that beautiful girls will find out that I like her. They may even imagine this scenario: Once a girl knows that I like her, she will look down on me, laugh at me, or even humiliate me. This is actually an overreaction. He deliberately takes the initiative to protect himself from being hurt and distances himself from you. In this way, if you dislike me, you can't blame me, and I can accept it more. In fact, boys with low self-esteem often misjudge girls' psychology and are afraid that girls will find some of his shortcomings and dislike him. In fact, girls don't have so many opportunities to dislike a person. As long as boys don't speak too stupidly and look like qinshou, they can generally pursue girls well.

Boys with low self-esteem often make up stories about themselves because of what they like about a girl. Moreover, the more low self-esteem a person has, the more he will magnify the damage he imagines. For example, a girl makes a joke about a boy, and a confident boy will just laugh it off, or even tease the girl in return. But a boy with low self-esteem will take the joke seriously, thinking that the girl is making fun of him, and denying himself. The more he thinks about it, the more painful it becomes. People instinctively avoid pain, so in order to avoid being hurt again, the low self-esteem boy installs a hard protective shell for himself: being indifferent and disgusted with beautiful women. However, in this way, he lives in an emotional world of his own fantasy, and girls in real life will only get further and further away from him.

How can boys with low self-esteem deal with relationships correctly?

1. Adjust your mindset

Have you noticed that confident people always think positively, while people with low self-esteem always have negative energy in their minds? For example, if there is a speech contest in school, some people will think that they can train themselves by giving it a try, while people with low self-esteem will think that there are too many people watching me when I give a speech, what if I suddenly forget the words? They back off before they even start, which is a typical lack of confidence. But have you ever thought that those confident people accumulate step by step, because they dare to take the first step, because they are not afraid of what others think of them. They have a good attitude, so what if I forget the words? At least I have tried my best. In fact, we all understand the truth, but it is indeed not easy when we have to do it.

2. So there is also psychological suggestion

Before you do something, if you say to yourself that you can do it, then you are almost there. Positive psychological suggestion really works. Often, what we do depends on that moment. Yes, if you cross that moment, you will dare to try a second time. It is the same in love. If you don’t dare to chat with a girl, you will feel that you can’t catch up with her and you are not worthy of her. You can’t catch up with her.

I used to have a crush on a guy, but I didn't dare to pursue him because I felt inferior because of my poor grades and because I thought I wasn't pretty enough. Now that I think about it, I really regret it because I cared too much! I just tried slowly, changed my pessimistic thinking, and walked out of it step by step.