What are some incorrect love tutorials?

Many people always complain about why they can’t find a girlfriend. In fact, the main reason is their own personality. So what kind of personality will lead to failure in getting along with their partner?

Abnormal anger

An angry person is like a time bomb; you never know when it will explode.

I am not talking about normal anger, everyone gets angry sometimes. The "anger" I am talking about here refers to abnormal and inappropriate anger, which is serious and destructive, and cannot be controlled by oneself or even others can't help.

"Be angry and do not sin; do not let the sun go down on your anger, and do not give place to the devil." You can express anger or frustration appropriately, but don't offend God or allow Satan to use it.

No one turns into an angry person overnight, and there are little signs in a relationship, like little flames telling you that a fire is starting.

If you see your partner has an anger problem, don't be afraid to encourage him or her to seek God's help. Don't compromise and stay in the relationship unless he or she truly repents.

Victim mentality

People with a victim mentality always blame others. People who blame their problems on others and cannot take responsibility for their own lives have never grown up.

The strange thing is that even though they complain about not being loved and supported, they cannot accept your love and support because victims subconsciously like to suffer.

They hold on to pain and manipulate those who hurt them, so they don't like forgiveness, no matter how much you give, they feel it's not enough, no matter how much you encourage them, they refuse to care.

Control Freak

A control freak wants everything to be decided by him, and he will do everything he can to prevent the situation from getting out of control. It is difficult for a control freak to open up, he does not want you to see his vulnerable side, and he does not like to admit that he needs you.

The second is that they are very possessive or jealous. They want to control your time and your entire life. When control freaks feel that the situation is out of control, they will easily get hurt and angry.

Control freaks have a hard time letting go. Control freaks are often workaholics or overbearing, critical parents. This defect is the hardest to change because it requires letting go and letting God take over, which is exactly what their natural character opposes.

Sexually promiscuous

One is addiction to pornography. The other is lack of loyalty.

Pornography destroys intimate relationships. Some magazines and movies claim to spice up your sex life, but in fact they bring a third person into your imagination and even create fantasies for you. If you fall into such fantasies for a long time, it will make you easily dissatisfied with real relationships and married life.

Be wary of flirty or sexually suggestive things your date says on a date. If your date flirts with others, stares at other people's bodies, makes sexual comments to your friends or even strangers, or touches others inappropriately, or has sex with others, these are inappropriate and lack loyalty.

"He who covers his sins will not prosper, but he who confesses and forsakes them will find mercy." If you secretly have a sexual addiction, if you lack the concept of loyalty, God can set you free, but you must face it seriously. Ignoring it will not solve the problem.

Not grown up yet

1 Corinthians 13:11 says, “When I was a child, I spoke like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child; but when I became a man, I put childish ways behind me.”

We should be as innocent as babies, but not childish. You need to find an adult partner, someone who is reliable. When you are with an unreliable person, you will eventually lose trust and respect for him.

Men and women with this shortcoming are unwilling to show a mature and responsible attitude, forcing their partners to play the role of parents. Another characteristic of not growing up is negativity, lack of motivation, no direction in life, and always being reluctant to make decisions.

There are some men and women who are ambitious in their careers, but they can't even earn enough money to support their families, have no savings in the bank, and don't have enough education fees for their children...; If the other person always wants to get something for nothing, he or she has not grown up yet.