What do men who don't want to go home want to do?

Recently, a media surveyed some married men, and more than 80% of them said that they could only go home on time two or three days a week. When asked "why don't you like to go home", the men's answers can be roughly divided into three categories:

The outside world is too exciting, and men like to play; men's social nature determines that they have many friends and social engagements; they are tired of their wives' aesthetics.

I remember reading Zhou Guoping's book ten years ago. He said, "A woman is a home. A man has no home. Unless a woman wants him, a man will have a home." From a cultural perspective, home is a place for rest and recuperation, shelter from the wind and rain, and for the reproduction and growth of life. Women symbolize nurturing, and men symbolize creation. Men need women to nurture them, and women's lives need men to create. Some people say that men live for women, but women live to give birth and raise offspring. All men in the world are nurtured by women, and are the flesh that falls from women's bodies, so men must work hard to repay women.

From the pictographic structure of the Chinese word "家", home is a pig under a roof. The roof refers to the roof, and the pig refers to the people living in the house. What is home? It is the house and the people in the house. If we symbolize women as the roof: home, and men as the pigs raised by women, then we have to be careful, because in the minds of modern people, pigs are obedient cats. Just watch the movie "Pig Baby" and you will know that pigs symbolize intelligence, good fortune, laziness, casualness, greed, lust, and of course three words: dirty, gluttonous and sleepy. Are these three words the behavioral characteristics of men at home? In fact, the word "pig" refers to wild boars, pigs that have not been tamed. Such pigs are reckless, brave, and rough. They do not attack proactively. They are not afraid of the emperor if they are provoked. They are easily confused but difficult to subdue. Does this look like a man who has not been tamed by a woman?

Why do men not want to go home? The top three reasons in an online survey are:

The outside world is too wonderful, and men like to play; men's social nature determines that they have many friends and social activities; they are tired of the aesthetics of their wives. In fact, these statements are superficial explanations, not the needs of men in their bones. Men have the spirit of "pigs" in their blood. You can neglect him, but you can't humiliate him. You can make demands on him, but you can't let him be casual and lazy at home. If a man at home feels that he has no dignity and no leisure, then he would rather wander alone than give in. However, a man tamed by a woman loses the heroic spirit of a pig, and he can let you mock, nag, and not treat him as a human being, and he will not get angry. The premise is whether he has ever received the benefits like a domestic pig, and whether a woman has ever satisfied and respected a man's self-esteem like a pig.

Marriage is the treasure cover. A woman's love, tolerance, forbearance and warmth are the circle that holds a man's heart. Only when the pig pen is firmly built, the man's heart will lose its "pig"-like wildness. However, all women's tenderness is like a trap. A man who has lost his home may be more likely to fall into someone else's circle. Speaking of this, I think of Sun Nan and Mai Hongmei. Whenever I listen to Sun Nan's "I believe", tears will wet my face. Home is both fascinating and confusing to many men. The reason is what kind of circle can be a home that accommodates all men in the world!

When asked, " Why don't men go home?"

The song "Going Home" by Sunjae came to my mind again. The sorrowful feeling was more like the real feeling of a stray pig (man) rather than a cat (woman) in the wild. There are two kinds of homes. One is the real home: the house. The other is the psychological home. Men have no home in their hearts, and men without a home in their hearts long to go home. If the home is not as loving and tolerant as the female womb, opening and closing the door countless times, and going home is just a kind of psychological compulsion for men. Men who cannot find love will have sex with many women, dress and undress, which is actually repeating the ritual of going home, but they still have no home. For men, the womb in a woman's body is the man's home, where they are born, where they are happy, and where they die. Sex and love are symbols of men's desire to return to the mother's womb (home), and the grave is another symbol of return. Look at the tombs built by ancient people. The long corridor leads to a house like a uterus. The soul of a man needs to find a place in the body of a woman, so the pinyin of tomb, where the soul rests, is the same as the pinyin of mother. Symbolically speaking, a woman has a uterus in her body, and a woman has a home. A woman who can selflessly accommodate a man like a uterus is the home that men ultimately desire.