Four secrets of men

Women usually write their secrets in diaries, lock them in drawers, or even whisper them to their best friends. What about men? They usually keep them in their hearts. Women usually need to share their secrets, while men's secrets are kept secret and can only be chewed over by themselves.

Secret 1: His Emotional Record

Case: JACKY, 32 years old, company project manager - Before I got married, I had a girlfriend, but she broke up with me for various reasons. I was very miserable for a while until I fell in love with my current wife and got married. I never told my wife about this past relationship, but she kept asking me about it after hearing what I had said. Sometimes I was careless and she would ask me with jealousy.

Me: How did you treat her in the past? You wouldn't be as cold to her as you are to me, right? I feel so confused.

I really want to tell her not to be so interested in my past, but I'm afraid she will misunderstand me even more, so I don't know how to start.

Men's thoughts: Almost every man has had a colorful love life, but in the man's mind, "the woman in the past" and "the woman in the present" are from two different planets, and men are unwilling to tell all this to their wives.

To women, it’s not that men are ashamed of this, but men believe that even the most well-educated women are jealous. If a man reveals his “ugly” side, will he have a good life in the future? Therefore, all of this has become an extremely depressing secret for men.

How women should deal with it: Let his emotional experience become a dusty past. Set his secret as a "minefield" in your heart, and always remind yourself not to get involved. Even if you hear a few words, don't dig into it. Your stubbornness and stinginess will only evoke his memories and even remind him of the good things about "her". What good will it do? Smart women know not to dig their own traps.

Keywords:

1. Broken heart: Because it is too embarrassing, I don’t say a word about it.

2. Online dating: Men will not admit to this kind of unrighteous behavior.

3. Romantic encounter: Men find it wonderful when it feels like they are having sex, and they think the best way to enjoy it is to keep it as a secret.

4. Admiration: For a married man, this is his secret that he always keeps to himself.

Secret 2: Various "feminine" psychological needs

Case: Cui Tao, 36 years old, company vice president - In the eyes of many people, I am a so-called "successful person": I have a high salary, a big house, and a luxury car. In fact, I also have some secrets that are not known to others. For example, when I am tired of working hard, I also want to lean on my wife's shoulder to relax. When I feel wronged and sad outside, I also want to cry my heart out. Sometimes I also want to live a carefree life like a child, or act coquettishly... But

I was also afraid that if my wife knew about it, it would affect my "glorious" image in her mind.

Men's thoughts: As individuals, men are actually more fragile than women. However, both women and men have formalized and absolutized men, as if men mean masculinity, strength, and pragmatism.

Careless and unkempt... In fact, men also have many unknown "feminine needs", but these are secrets that are only done but not said, and women are not allowed to open them to find out.

Women's response: Men are "face" animals, and they like women's appreciation and admiration. Therefore, this secret of men is very subtle and should not be easily revealed. Women only need to face it calmly, understand it, and know it in their hearts. Never complain about it, and don't encourage him to be "weak" or "childish" out of love, otherwise men will think that you look down on him, which he can't stand; it is also tacitly known that his admiration is vain and conceited, which will only make him angry and embarrassed.

Keywords:

1. Vanity: It is difficult to make more money in your pocket, but it is much easier to make yourself look like a rich person.

2. Weakness: Men also have a weak side, but this cannot be made public.

3. Vanity: Men generally will never admit that they love to dress up, this is also a "secret" of men.

4. Childish: Looks like a scoundrel, but is actually just being coquettish. However, it is not suitable for large-scale development.

Secret 3: The so-called "man's own business"

Case: Liu Ming, 30 years old, media reporter - In my spare time after get off work, I often get together with a group of friends, we chat and drink, and feel very comfortable. But my wife is always worried, sometimes she calls me several times a night to keep asking: Where are you?

Who are you with? What are you doing? It's really annoying. She also always asks about my work. I know she does this because she cares, but I really don't want her to interfere too much in my own affairs.

Men's thoughts: Women are detail-oriented, enjoy communicating, love to ask questions, and even get stuck in nitpicking.

Men often think that it is their own business and women don't need to be surprised and ask about it, because men's business should be done by men.

How women should deal with it: When your husband needs you to be his wife, don’t try to be his work and life planner. Everyone has a psychological need to have their own living space, and men are no exception. So the wise choice for women is to let him go crazy, regardless of his bad friends, work situation... his "private plot", let him cultivate it!

Keywords:

1. Work situation: Some work matters need to be kept secret, because they don’t want to bring daytime matters into the night. Therefore, men don’t like women to interfere.

2. Socializing: Men like to hang out with friends of the same sex and don’t like women to get involved.

3. Dream of getting rich: Desire to get rich overnight is almost every man’s dream, but he has to do it behind his wife’s back, hoping to give his beloved woman a big surprise one day.

Secret 4: Anxiety about Sex

Case: ANSON, 40 years old, office worker - My wife and I are relatively harmonious in sex, but I always can't help but worry and be anxious, such as whether my size is long enough, the number of times we do it, whether the time is enough to satisfy her... But I don't want my wife to know about these anxieties, and I don't want her to mention them actively.

Men's thoughts: Sex is a lifelong event for men. They care about it very much and think about it every six minutes. Sex is an important cornerstone of men's self-esteem and self-confidence. No matter what kind of man is, he is unwilling to admit that he is impotent in sex. Men have more or less been anxious about their sexual ability. But this is a big secret that women cannot know.

How women should deal with it: Behind a man's "sexual" enthusiasm, there are actually struggles. Therefore, the praise and trust from his wife is the best "Viagra" for a man. No matter what causes his "slippery" situation, as a wife, you should remain calm on the surface, let alone complain.

Keywords:

1. Number of times: Men usually overreport intentionally.

2. How long: When it comes to duration, men are very tight-lipped and wives should not break the taboo.

3. "I am ill": The safest rule is to never tell anyone even if you kill me!