Just three tips to help you get rid of the pain of a broken heart

People who are in love will inevitably encounter the distress of a broken heart. Some people cannot get over the pain of a broken heart for a long time after a breakup, and it even seriously affects their normal life. How can we treat a broken heart?

Treatment for a broken heart: Stimulation therapy - reducing sensitivity

In the early stage of a breakup, you are obsessed with the past. Deliberately suppressing it can only make you forget it temporarily, but when you open your eyes the next day, it comes back again. Can you really stop thinking about it if you "don't want to"? Can you really forget it if you "want to forget"? People's thoughts are the most rebellious things. The more you force yourself not to think about it, the more you can't help thinking about it; you want to forget it, but you can't forget it. Unless you have already practiced the skill of "calm as water", otherwise, according to psychological research, temporarily suppressing emotions and inhibiting thoughts will only make the next wave of emotions more painful.

Therefore, this therapy does not encourage repression, on the contrary, it advocates "fighting poison with poison", letting the tears flow freely, letting the sorrow be as much as possible, letting the longing and sadness burst out, and freely contacting those objects or situations that easily trigger emotions until the reaction is exhausted and the feeling is numb. When you have nothing to think about and the sadness has been repeated for hundreds of times, you will gradually become numb to the point where you can no longer be hurt by the scene.

This "stress enhancement therapy" aims to completely expel the inner pain through external rituals, and gradually help you reach the state of "no sorrow in a hundred thoughts" and "immune to a hundred poisons".

Therapy for a Broken Heart Part 2: Guilt-Enhancing Method - The Bad Things You Want to Deal With

Love is blind. When you break up, you should open your eyes and wake up. Open the sin diary in the sea of ​​love and hatred, think about his (her) evil words, bad deeds and coldness, and brainwash yourself repeatedly, making sure you hate the other person more and more, until you hate him (her) to the point of gnashing your teeth and losing your appetite. (Although the reason for the breakup may also be yourself) If this is not enough, you can find some friends who originally dislike him (her) or are very loyal to you, and hold a "struggle meeting" together. Everyone takes turns to criticize that person, calling him (her) a bad guy who is unforgivable and a big jerk who is condemned by both humans and gods, so that you can vent your resentment.

The best therapeutic effect of this method is to help you vent your anger and realize that the other person is such a terrible person, so that you can put away your nostalgic feelings and completely abandon your worries and reluctance.

The third method of treating a broken heart: Thought interruption - diverting attention

This method is exactly opposite to the "stimulation therapy", but the two can be used together. Especially this method, it can also be used to save an overly decadent mood at the end of a breakup.

In the early stage of a breakup, you let your thoughts run wild, and after thinking wildly, you become sad and tired, and your thoughts are exhausted. If you still can't get rid of the emotional nightmare after a few months, and the pain of the breakup continues endlessly, it proves that you need this therapy to pour cold water on the overheated thoughts.

Find a box and store all the things that trigger sadness or memories in this "Pandora's box" to avoid "getting horny" when seeing the things. Once you realize that you are indulging in the past again, do some exercise, sing military songs, or even yell once or twice, slap the table a few times, or play some inspiring songs to suppress or cut off the thoughts. This is the "thinking interruption method" commonly used in psychiatry, which is quite effective in dealing with mental illnesses such as heartbreak.